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husband says im fat
I feel like crap BC my husband came home from work and said I am ugly and gaining weight and he's attracted to other women. I feel so ugly and hurt. I'm 23 weeks pregnant and I've really watched what I have eaten this pregnacey I have only gained 10 pounds, I try to walk every day and I chase around our 15 months old. I have such bad achne BC I'm freaking pregnant!I Dont know if its just my hormones or what. I feel like I've been punched in the heart. he keeps asking when I cna start working out after I have my c section, I'm just hurt.
I'm 23 weeks tomorrow and I've gained almost 20lbs. You have got to be all belly!! I've probably gained a little extra but me and my husband don't care. He doesn't say anything about my extra gain. U deserve better !
It's a shame that a man can be such a tool to a woman who is carrying his child!! He obviously is a superficial prick & you deserve a man who bows down to you while you're pregnant & every other day of your life.
My sister gave me advice. Marry someone that loves you a teeny tiny bit more than you love them. well, I tell you. I wouldn't say my husband loves me more but he adores me. I've 'chased' feeling loved by someone. It's awful. I wouldn't trade feeling secure with someone for anything. And my husband is pretty good looking, very successful and had lots of girlfriends before we met. But, he views me as a good catch too. A really good catch.
So much better than trying to convince him that I'm a good catch.
If he comes and goes, let him go. I'd rather be on my own that with someone so in love with themselves that they think they can push me around with their words. good luck
So much better than trying to convince him that I'm a good catch.
If he comes and goes, let him go. I'd rather be on my own that with someone so in love with themselves that they think they can push me around with their words. good luck
Sweetie, I'm really very sorry. That hurts my heart for you. There is really nothing I can say to make this better. That is such a hurtful thing. To call you these names and to even hint at being attracted to other women, what was he trying to accomplish?
Do not try to please this man. Do not try to be super careful about weight gain in pregnancy because of your husband's wandering eye and hyper critical way of looking at you. Do not act like a single woman trying to catch a man! You were supposed to have your man. We all change in relationships physically. We all age. We all gain weight. I feel so sorry for a woman that is never allowed to do this gracefully because her man wants her to look like she did the day they met for eternity. It's not realistic. When you are 20, you think it might be. But it's not.
so, he's a superficial jerk who finds no issue with saying cruel things to you. I just couldn't live with someone like that. I'm sorry as I'm sure you are very hurt.
Do not try to please this man. Do not try to be super careful about weight gain in pregnancy because of your husband's wandering eye and hyper critical way of looking at you. Do not act like a single woman trying to catch a man! You were supposed to have your man. We all change in relationships physically. We all age. We all gain weight. I feel so sorry for a woman that is never allowed to do this gracefully because her man wants her to look like she did the day they met for eternity. It's not realistic. When you are 20, you think it might be. But it's not.
so, he's a superficial jerk who finds no issue with saying cruel things to you. I just couldn't live with someone like that. I'm sorry as I'm sure you are very hurt.
Honey, if he's been doing this since you were 17, leave him. F*ck him, and f*ck his family. Take your babies and go someplace he won't find you. You are worth so much more than this jerk.
Girl screw his family. Leave him....looks are NOT everything. I am sorry I kinda pity the fact that you said that...if that's the only reason your with him, then you don't love him you like his looks. He is NOT worth your time or your children's for that matter I hope and pray you wake up girly...(not trying to be rude)
Brody, I was once engaged to a pretty boy who was an ahole.
It's much better once I finally broke up with him and found a really wonderful guy who wasn't always staring at himself in the mirror.
I think tomorrow is the day you should wake up and be done with this jerk. You really won't believe how good it will make you feel.
And the pretty boy? He married a girl who looked absolutely miserable and divorced him when the kids were little.
It's much better once I finally broke up with him and found a really wonderful guy who wasn't always staring at himself in the mirror.
I think tomorrow is the day you should wake up and be done with this jerk. You really won't believe how good it will make you feel.
And the pretty boy? He married a girl who looked absolutely miserable and divorced him when the kids were little.
thanks everyone I really appreciate it, really I do. i get comfort being able to talk to ppl on here. because it hurts so bad and having you guys makes me feel better
@rockrose I'm 24 I've been with him since we have been 17. he constantly leaves, comes back and does whatever he wants and for some reason idk why I still beg him to stay. I really honestly can't tell you why other then I love him and just pray he will get over it. also, if we did separate his family and him would make me miserable and probably torture me. he's got a good job, he's really sexy he works out alllllllll the time and gets lots of attention from other women. I just think one day I will wake up and just be done.
@rockrose I'm 24 I've been with him since we have been 17. he constantly leaves, comes back and does whatever he wants and for some reason idk why I still beg him to stay. I really honestly can't tell you why other then I love him and just pray he will get over it. also, if we did separate his family and him would make me miserable and probably torture me. he's got a good job, he's really sexy he works out alllllllll the time and gets lots of attention from other women. I just think one day I will wake up and just be done.
I'm sorry but why would you chalk up being hurt to your hormones? Your hormones didn't say those things to you. Personally I would have looked at him and started pointing out his flaws, but thats me. Oh and when bed time rolled around I'd give him a blanket and his pillow and tell him to enjoy the couch. Wouldn't want my big butt rolling over him in the middle of the night and suffocate his prickly ***. A bad day is no excuse to come home and just be 'well hi there fatty.' I get really annoyed seeing other pregnant women say the same. We're not fat, we are carrying children in our stomach not 20 cheeseburgers and a mcflurry. If we're constantly putting ourselves down no wonder the men think its oh k to do the same. And who cares if you really are overweight for your size. It don't effect nobody but you. Sorry I started rambling, but honey your pregnant thats a child not a fat pouch. Its life not a chilly cheese steak. But you shouldn't allow him to talk to you like that, what happens if he continues and your kids see its oh k to treat others that way? Gotta put your foot down and defend yourself. I'm sorry he was like that.
So, I have to ask.
Do you notice other men, who are sweet and loving, and say cute and endearing things to their wives? Who say "honey, don't worry, you always look great", "who cares if you're getting big? you're PREGNANT", "I don't think anyone noticed at all that you tripped a little".
Do you see that? I wonder why you didn't hold out for one of those guys yourself.
Do you notice other men, who are sweet and loving, and say cute and endearing things to their wives? Who say "honey, don't worry, you always look great", "who cares if you're getting big? you're PREGNANT", "I don't think anyone noticed at all that you tripped a little".
Do you see that? I wonder why you didn't hold out for one of those guys yourself.
Where do these men COME from??? I think every pregnant woman probably imagines their husband is thinking these things, but REALLY? What a total clod for saying this.
I do wonder why you got pregnant a second time with this man who is tearing your apart.
Maya Angelou had a piece where she talked about being aware of men who will tear little bits and pieces off you until you are a mass of scars, and how you have to leave when you realize he's pulling you apart.
She was talking about your guy.
I do wonder why you got pregnant a second time with this man who is tearing your apart.
Maya Angelou had a piece where she talked about being aware of men who will tear little bits and pieces off you until you are a mass of scars, and how you have to leave when you realize he's pulling you apart.
She was talking about your guy.
That's horrible. That just made me sad...I'm so sorry. Your bringing life into this world. You need to get away from that negativity... your beautiful and pregnant... my fiancé loves that I'm fat cause he made me this way lol he loves that I have our healthy baby girl in there... if you weren't gaining weight it would be bad. Keep gaining that weight itsfor your baby! Good luck. Remember. Your beautiful.
You're not fat or ugly! You're beautiful and pregnant! You're only 23 weeks pregnant and gained only 10 pounds. I wish I gained that much when I was 23 weeks. I gained 60 pounds my entire pregnancy! You're carrying his child. He's a douche
What a jerk...your beautiful sweetie don't let him get you down...he's probably had a crappy day and just wants you to be down in the dumps with his pathetic butt!
You can't blame your hormones for a douche bag husband. Leave him now before he really hurts you.
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