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i dont understand how he could ask that?
My bf asked me if i love him more than our baby... uhh how can i love anyone more than the baby that grew inside of me for 9 months? I told him it was a draw. I love him but i love my baby more. Maybe its a mommy thing cuz im pretty sure he would tell me he loves me more. I didnt want him mad so i told him it was a tie but i would do anything for my baby. Ya i love my baby more.
I don't think there is a "wrong answer" here - everyone will have a different opinion on the matter and it's rude to tell someone (especially a stranger, seriously) that how they feel about the people in their lives isn't the way they should feel.
I don't love my husband "more" than our son or our baby on the way and I don't love him less. I love him in a different way entirely. I didn't get to choose the person my son would be, that was left entirely up to genetics and good old fashioned chance. I chose my husband for the man that he is - we had the option to work together and build a relationship or to walk away from each other at any point and we have chosen to stay together. That's a different kind of love than the love for a child. I choose him every day of my life, I choose to make my life with him and to be his partner. Our little guy, not so much - I love him unbelievably and I can't imagine life without him but I didn't get to pick him and I don't get to choose whether or not to spend our time together because though he is an awesome kid he's also an enormous responsibility.
I don't love one more than another. I never could. I love them differently - they are different people and they are different relationships. And my husband would never disrespect me or my emotions enough to ask a stupid question like that.
I don't love my husband "more" than our son or our baby on the way and I don't love him less. I love him in a different way entirely. I didn't get to choose the person my son would be, that was left entirely up to genetics and good old fashioned chance. I chose my husband for the man that he is - we had the option to work together and build a relationship or to walk away from each other at any point and we have chosen to stay together. That's a different kind of love than the love for a child. I choose him every day of my life, I choose to make my life with him and to be his partner. Our little guy, not so much - I love him unbelievably and I can't imagine life without him but I didn't get to pick him and I don't get to choose whether or not to spend our time together because though he is an awesome kid he's also an enormous responsibility.
I don't love one more than another. I never could. I love them differently - they are different people and they are different relationships. And my husband would never disrespect me or my emotions enough to ask a stupid question like that.
Wrong answer. You love your husband more. In 20 years your kids will be gone and you will have 50 years with just him. Even though you might save your child over him in a fire.
It's a different kind of love. My husband always jokes on how much more I love my son. I love them both very much but I guess a way of putting it is my son's live is more unbreakable. My child could do nothing to kill my love but if my husband cheated or something of that sort my live would be tested.
My fiance looked at me like I was crazy because I asked him since I love him so much is that why I'm absolutely crazy about this baby. Guys are weird but I know for a fact he loves this baby more than me and that's how it should be. If this is his first time being a dad give him time because once he holds the baby for the first time he's gone.
He's jealous of the baby and prob afraid might lose your attention. But yes Bible says you love your husband before your kids bc your kids will leave the nest one day n start their own fam as your hubby n u still be together! Anywho, i love my kids n daddy the same! But tell ur bf not to act selfish n childish. Grow up, lol.your child is first
Yes the bible says that. Because eventually kids get older and depart from mom and dad and start their own family. & husband and wife SUPPOSE TO BE til death.
I would say I love you both so much but just in different ways!! Thats what I tell my husband, its really not a matter of who I love the most its a different kind of love that I have for him (im in love with him) but and unconditional love I have for my children!
I agree with @lisarye that's exactly how my husband is he told me our children are the number one priority in his life and I come second to them and I'm okay with that because that's exactly how I feel about him
If he's just your bf then he can come 2nd to your baby or anyone. But when you get married he should #2 in your life.
Wow really?! my babies dad always says God first then our baby then me lol and I love it. Kids need to be number one priority in the parents lives. I will, with no hesitation, tell my babydaddy I love our daughter more than him and he will be on the same page.
Oh,I love my son to the moon and back times infinity. And his dad better love him that much too, we both agree that we love our children way more than each other and I thin that is how it should be!
Does the Bible really say that? Crazy. I'm not religious but anyone who puts their kids third is no good in my eyes.
My boyfriend asked me the same thing! I told him the truth I love our daughter more. I said baby she is a piece of me. And his response was I GAVE YOU HER. YOU SHOULD LOVE ME MORE! And I was like well she knows how my heart sounds from the inside and you don't so she has my heart its a mommy time. He didn't get upset he knows I will kill for her. I will get hurt before she is in danger
If you are religous the bible says you love god first, then your husband since you became one in your marriage, then your kids/family. A lot of people follow that if they are strict Christians. But I personally think I will always love my kids first.
My bf asked me the same thing! When I told him I love them both the same he was all hurt and said we r supposed to love each other more.
Tell him like I have to tell my 8 year old who has been an only child so far. Now I have 2 favorite people in the whole wide world! And Iove you both very much!
He probably just feels insecure he's not use to you loving someone more. He'll learn. When I first got with my bf my son was 18months and I told him straight up he will absolutely never come first in my life and I'll always put my son first. You should always put your children first. My mom didn't she always said my dad came first I thought it was awful because my dad always put us first. Some people are just like that. I don't get it. My children will always come before anyone.
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