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hiya ^.^
What I'd like to have here is any CONSTRUCTIVE advice for things I can do to help my wife with what she is/will be going through these next several weeks, aside from the obvious such as taking some of the cleaning and cooking etc which I've already been helping with. She's 10 weeks along approximately. I'd also like to know if there's anything I can buy to help with the nausea, we've tried crackers we've tried ginger ale and it helps a little but not a lot.
Are you for real?? Lol..;-) do guys like this really exist?? Kudos to you!! ;-) I agree with everything these ladies have posted already!! I'm still in shock n can't think of anything to add!!! Lol..do you give lessons?? Ha** I'm signing my hubby up!!!
Lol aww I was going to say what 2012mommyV said, this is adoreable!! Congratulations on your new addition!! I can't give advice as I've never been pregnant but I think it's wonderful you're so into helping her. :)
This post is so cute what a great daddy to be I almost cried darn hormones lol ..Congrats on your pregnancy :)
I just have to say that you are so sweet to be looking for advice! i just read your question to my guy and he laughed and said "what that sounds like me" because he knows he needs to step it up! im so jealous right now! and very happy for you and your wife, you are gonna be such a great dad!
Ugh I know what u mean, there's this idiotic male pride crap that quite frankly needs to go out the window, parenting comes first, everything else second. Personally I don't like tips from books, they're too general much like classes, I would rather have tips from ACTUAL parents and parents to be like you all, those tend to be more effective and genuine
Wow I can't believe you're here I can't make my husband read one sentence a week called a daddy tip out of my pregnancy book he's having a very hard time adjusting. But here are some things that will help everyone
1. Lemon for nausea.. anything with natural lemon flavor you can't go wrong.
2. Don't yell back when she yells sometimes she's not even sure why she's yelling but if you yell back it will just make her more upset lol.
3. Acknowledge that she's crying when she's crying and just ask her how she needs you to handle it sometimes she wants a hug sometimes she doesn't want to be touched, you can't know unless you ask.
4. Unless the doctor says so YOU CAN NOT hurt that baby having sex and if you stop having sex with your wife it will more than likely make her feel unattractive, it's hard to adjust to what pregnancy is doing to our bodies and when how you react to us physically changes it makes it feel worse (I know from personal experience) but if you do absolutely have a terrible time with it when she brings it up (and she will you're very sexually charged when pregnant sometimes) make sure you tell her I think you're beautiful. I love our baby. Ya know encouraging things.
5. As a matter of fact just tell her lots how much you love her and the baby and how strong she is and pretty say nice things lol.
6. Last but not least talk to the baby from about 16 weeks baby can hear you and the more you talk to him/her the more familiar with you he/she will be and will bond to you quicker.
Good luck but you're going to do great and you're wife is already leagues ahead of a lot of women so you're both just off to a terrific start
1. Lemon for nausea.. anything with natural lemon flavor you can't go wrong.
2. Don't yell back when she yells sometimes she's not even sure why she's yelling but if you yell back it will just make her more upset lol.
3. Acknowledge that she's crying when she's crying and just ask her how she needs you to handle it sometimes she wants a hug sometimes she doesn't want to be touched, you can't know unless you ask.
4. Unless the doctor says so YOU CAN NOT hurt that baby having sex and if you stop having sex with your wife it will more than likely make her feel unattractive, it's hard to adjust to what pregnancy is doing to our bodies and when how you react to us physically changes it makes it feel worse (I know from personal experience) but if you do absolutely have a terrible time with it when she brings it up (and she will you're very sexually charged when pregnant sometimes) make sure you tell her I think you're beautiful. I love our baby. Ya know encouraging things.
5. As a matter of fact just tell her lots how much you love her and the baby and how strong she is and pretty say nice things lol.
6. Last but not least talk to the baby from about 16 weeks baby can hear you and the more you talk to him/her the more familiar with you he/she will be and will bond to you quicker.
Good luck but you're going to do great and you're wife is already leagues ahead of a lot of women so you're both just off to a terrific start
For nausea the cracker and sprite thing never worked. If her nausea is really bad try asking the ob for some meds. They are safe and the only thing that works for me (pregnant with #4). I took zophran or phenergan (apologize for the spelling lol) if you don't go that route there are sea sickness wrist bands that have helped some of my friends. Hope that helps. Congrats on baby
When she gets bigger tie her shoes for her & if she crys cause she can't do it on her own just hold her & tell her it's ok & u like tieing them for her my Hubby did that for me & drove me cause I'm short with short arms Im only 5'1 so when I got bigger I couldn't reach the steering wheel lol
I have noticed the way the community here responds, and am grateful for all the responses and advice
Please ask whatever you want and encourage your wife to as well! I had no support or resources for my first pregnancy and it was scary and confusing...and after I discovered this site with my 2nd pregnancy I haven't been able to leave. The advice and support you can get here are wonderful, and that's what we're here for!
Oh and I hope u all don't mind, but I may be on here a fair bit asking about this and that, we have no one else to ask unfortunately
I couldn't agree more...my husband agrees with you as well. It's as much his job to grow this baby right as it is mine, and I've been blessed to have such a supportive and loving partner...but not all men, by any stretch of the imagination, feel the same way unfortunately.
I'm so glad that you will always find her beautiful, just remember to help HER always see herself as beautiful! Some women feel more attractive when they are pregnant, but some get very self-conscious, so just giving you a heads-up that she could go either way :-).
I'm so glad that you will always find her beautiful, just remember to help HER always see herself as beautiful! Some women feel more attractive when they are pregnant, but some get very self-conscious, so just giving you a heads-up that she could go either way :-).
I know exactly what u mean, I've noticed many changes already, to be entirely honest, no matter how she changes she'll be beautiful to me, I'll be blunt tho....guys who act like that make me sick. Pregnancy is not a joke and responsibility must come along with it.
The one thing I wish I could tell all men is to be ready for the changes that her body will go through so you can help her accept them. Some women have a tough time as their bodies change (she may get fuller breasts, yay right? lol, she may get stretch marks, dry skin or acne, and her hips may widen slightly...she may gain or lose weight..) and if their partner isn't supportive it can really impact the woman's self-esteem. I have friends whose husbands were quite cruel when their bodies went through pregnancy changes and I know that they are much less secure and content with their bodies now, even though they are GORGEOUS women who are all slender and fit - just a few poorly placed words when a woman is sensitive about her body especially during pregnancy can do lasting damage...so try to remember to expect these changes and help her ENJOY them...a bigger belly means a growing baby! stretch marks WILL fade, and so will pretty much all other pregnancy-caused changes...but if she forgets that it's temporary and gets down about it, try to uplift her about it :-). My husband has been wonderful about that with all of our babies..he's my best cheerleader.
Interesting the less eating the more the nausea, hadn't figured that out yet, as for the appointments we both would rather us both be present so we're both on the same page, I think I would prolly insist tbh, be there however I can. I'm trying to be as active in this as I can. It is after all my child as well, I'm actually the one who found this app lol.. which has been quite helpful thus far.
OH! i don't know why I didn't think of it, but crushed ice has helped me with nausea in all 3 pregnancies.
Wow, what a great hubby. For me, it helped when my bf rubbed my neck and back while lying down. I got sick a lot in the beginning and it helped when he would rub my tummy as I tried to nap. Good luck.
For naseau, sour candy like lemon drops or jolly ranchers, vitamin b 6, plain unisom 1/2 tablet, ginger cookies, small frequent meals with protein. No matter how "irrational" upset etc. she gets(pregnancy hormones!!!!) Just agree and say yes dear whatever you say or ask her how you can make her feel better! Good luck.
Hi, and welcome! Wow, what a great daddy-to-be...I think it's fantastic that you're coming here to ask for tips on how to help your wife during the pregnancy...hats off to you!
Any little bit that you can do will help her, honestly. Right now, small things like letting her nap if she feels sleepy, cooking if the feels nauseous, helping out with the groceries, those kinds of things will help out. As her belly gets bigger and the pregnancy progresses, she will need more help with some of the tougher chores, like moving furniture to clean, lifting things, reaching things off of high shelves, etc.
When it comes to HER, she's going to be uncomfortable and tired, even if she never feels any other pregnancy symptoms, so drawing a warm bath, rubbing her back and feet, and helping her get comfortable in bed (as well as helping her stand up from a sitting or lying position, LOL) can really make her feel loved and comfortable.
Also, make sure you're showing a lot of interest in the baby. ask about appointments, ultrasounds, see how she's feeling about the pregnancy, becoming a mother, etc....these will help her feel closer to you.
Mostly..just do whatever it takes to help each other and enjoy the time you have as a family of 2 before your lives change. If you two are on the same page and supporting each other and being loving and helpful, you will find welcoming that little bundle into your life to be a lot less of a challenge and you will enjoy the process a lot more! You're doing GREAT by asking for tips....that's an amazing thing in a father, and your wife should be glad that she has a man so interested in helping her and caring for her well-being while she's caring for your little miracle...not all men are that wonderful!
As far as nausea goes, if it's bad enough she can talk to her doctor about it, but mostly the best way to combat it is to make sure she is eating light meals regularly throughout the day. the less she eats, the greater her nausea will be. keep things on hand like crackers and toast and anything that might strike her fancy so she can eat little bits here and there...and HOPEFULLY this will pass as she begins her 2nd trimester.
Any little bit that you can do will help her, honestly. Right now, small things like letting her nap if she feels sleepy, cooking if the feels nauseous, helping out with the groceries, those kinds of things will help out. As her belly gets bigger and the pregnancy progresses, she will need more help with some of the tougher chores, like moving furniture to clean, lifting things, reaching things off of high shelves, etc.
When it comes to HER, she's going to be uncomfortable and tired, even if she never feels any other pregnancy symptoms, so drawing a warm bath, rubbing her back and feet, and helping her get comfortable in bed (as well as helping her stand up from a sitting or lying position, LOL) can really make her feel loved and comfortable.
Also, make sure you're showing a lot of interest in the baby. ask about appointments, ultrasounds, see how she's feeling about the pregnancy, becoming a mother, etc....these will help her feel closer to you.
Mostly..just do whatever it takes to help each other and enjoy the time you have as a family of 2 before your lives change. If you two are on the same page and supporting each other and being loving and helpful, you will find welcoming that little bundle into your life to be a lot less of a challenge and you will enjoy the process a lot more! You're doing GREAT by asking for tips....that's an amazing thing in a father, and your wife should be glad that she has a man so interested in helping her and caring for her well-being while she's caring for your little miracle...not all men are that wonderful!
As far as nausea goes, if it's bad enough she can talk to her doctor about it, but mostly the best way to combat it is to make sure she is eating light meals regularly throughout the day. the less she eats, the greater her nausea will be. keep things on hand like crackers and toast and anything that might strike her fancy so she can eat little bits here and there...and HOPEFULLY this will pass as she begins her 2nd trimester.
Glad you're trying; I wish sometimes I had somebody like you around. :)
Rub her back, cuddle her a little (if she's a cuddler), insist that she put her feet up especially as she gets a little further along. Don't get mad when she tears your head off or cries at something totally random or when she falls asleep just when you're all ready to go out for the night. But also don't act like she's a child; I'm sure she's got a good head on her shoulders, all we need at times like this is a little support. Lots of changes going on in our bodies, and it's a deeply emotional experience. Even just sharing in the changes and being excited is important at a time like this. I'd just follow her lead, and let her know you're there for whatever she needs. Good luck.
Rub her back, cuddle her a little (if she's a cuddler), insist that she put her feet up especially as she gets a little further along. Don't get mad when she tears your head off or cries at something totally random or when she falls asleep just when you're all ready to go out for the night. But also don't act like she's a child; I'm sure she's got a good head on her shoulders, all we need at times like this is a little support. Lots of changes going on in our bodies, and it's a deeply emotional experience. Even just sharing in the changes and being excited is important at a time like this. I'd just follow her lead, and let her know you're there for whatever she needs. Good luck.
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