idk wa to do

[Kaylz101]

Since my partner found out I was pregnant nothing has changed x just before he lost his job x now the baby wasn't planned I was on the pill and the condom split and somehow I still got pregnant but I'll love my child either way but since I found out he's not interested in keeping the flat we live in clean for example I was told to rest in bed for 3 days and wasn't eating much x now yesterday I was going to paint the babies room as I was feeling better and I bad my parents over to help x me and my father walked into the kitchen and honestly it was the first time in 3 days and there was rubbish all over the floor the sides where covered in rubbish the dishes weren't done and everything x honestly I know if social found out the baby would be taken from us n I don't want that x I do take part of the responisblity as I couldn't clean BT I honestly couldn't get out of bed I had flu I think x also he'll go days without bathing I've known for 4 weeks and he's had a bath 3 times within the 4 weeks x its ridiculous x I've tried talking to him but nothing works x also he's had one interview and has a follow up interview now on Thursday but refuses to apply for another job because he thinks hell get this one x don't get me rong I love him but I honestly want to leave but have no where to go really x am I being to harsh by wanting to leave him or do I give him time x I'm so emotional and confused x

[wishes2891]

If he had these hygiene issues before your pregnancy i doubt he'll change over night just bc you're pregnant. Those are habits and habits can be very very hard to break. It's something that will take work and time to change. And he'll have to want to change. You could try "training" him with sex lol. Like say he wants to get frisky tell him he has to shower first or shower with him to get him in there. For things like the dishes tell him they need done but you know you'll be too tired after doing them to mess around but you'll go get the bedroom ready while he does the dishes (or cleans the living room, cleans the bathroom, whatever) but make sure when you're able to you're doing your fair share of the cleaning too so he doesn't get resentful and feel like he's having to do everything.

[Dakidd2512]

If your unhappy talk to him and see if the talk do any good. And if it doesn't then leave, there's no point in staying if your not happy

[miramrt]

He doesn't seem like a mature and responsible father and that he's taking your pregnancy seriously enough. You need to have a serious talk with him about what you expect him to do and if he's not responsive he will have to leave. He will end up giving you more headaches than helping..