inlaws

[likklehev]

My boyfriends mum has just tried telling me shes going to be in the delivery room whilst im giving birth I have told her under no circumstances will she be there its like shes jelous that my mum will get to see the baby first because shes coming in the delivery room with me and my boyfriend his mum is adiment that shes coming in and nothing I say is changing her mind. What am I supposed to say to her?

[drinkybabyxx]

You can make it very clear with the midwives and delivery staff who exactly is allowed in your room. I mean she won't even be able to get anywhere near you without facing intercoms and receptions explaining who she is and why she's here. You've told her no, if she doesn't wanna accept it then fine but it doesn't make her anymore able to be there lol. Good luck. My mother in law is hell too

[Angel760]

Girl im going thro the same thing. Im giving my daughter my moms name as her middle name. And my bfs mom guilt tripped me into adding in her name and totally made me feel like crap if i didnt. So instead of it being aaliyah lilly jackson its aaliyah lilly ANN jackson. And she thinks shes guna be in the delivery room but no itll be my mom and bf ONLY. ANNND lol shes talking about im coming to stay with u guys for a few weeks when the baby is born. And my moms staying with us cause she just moved back from ny. I only have one bedroom so his mom tried saying ill tell ur mom to go somewhere else. And im not having it. Just be stern about it. She will get over it

[indiad]

If you don't want her in there you really should just tell security. Maybe have a talk with your boyfriend and make sure he understands that you really don't want them in the room, and he understands why. Maybe if you can get him to understand why better he'll be of some help.

[soontobemommyoftwins]

From the beginning my MIL wanted to take control she told me how she would have copies of my babies social and birth certificate and that she would be in the room when i delivered and when we found out we were having twins and that we would be having a c-section (which at our hospital only one person can go back w u during the procedure) she said she would be the one to go back we go into a huge argument and i told her hell no my husband the babies father will be there not u! She said well ive seen all my grandkids be born and i told her firstly ur daughter was very young and didnt have her kids dad around so thats different then our situation we r married live on our own and have done everything on our own this prenancy! She has come to termswith the fact that she will not be allowed in the room and will not have copies of any of our kids things! But we r now battling out something new i will be having ourbbabies eaely due to complications so they will be going to the NICU and now she thinks she can be there all the time holding them and j straight up told her she can only look through the window and will not touch them till they r out cuz she is nasty and wont make them bebthere longer than they need tp be and at our hospital u write a list of who can visit themin the NICU and it will only have me and ny hisband on it! My husband has always backed me up and sometimes u have tp just put ur foot down!

[kennimae]

I would be flipping out if my MIL did that. I don't even want my mom in the room let alone her. They can be in when I am waiting but that's about it. Past a certain point everyone but my husband is getting kicked out. If she would come in just make a BIG scene until nurses kick her out.

[lanestonsmommy]

If someone acted like that towards me I would seriously laugh in their face!wont no one but the people I say be in the room when I give birth..don't think I won't plain out hurt someone's feelings about it..that is something personal for you and your baby's daddy and of course some women want the person that birthed them into the world in on the experience.i think she should respect you!after all ain't nobody lookin at my junk except the doctors and nurses and my husband who looks at it all the time and my mother who already knows what it looks like!i think it's disgusting that she's even adamant about freaking videoing!!

[Kelseymichelle]

You can tell your nurses and midwife who is allowed in the room. Let them know how uncomfortable you feel with the inlaws being there and the nurses should take care of it. You should check with the hospital you're going to if they have security or certain measures they can take for you to keep unwanted people out.

[likklehev]

I have told her and my boyfriend that she cannot come in the room and I know ill go mental if she even tries when the time comes and I know what you mean with the video camera her and his dad have shown me that theyve got their video camera out and cleaned it up ready to video the birth I have also told them that it wont be happening im so mad with them im only 30 weeks but the midwifes are adiment that I wont go anywhere near full term before having the baby due to complications so I need to start thinking of these things now. And I dont know if we have security to take people out in england I dont think we do but it's really starting to get on my nerves

[thepenguinsrock]

When i had my 1st I had my boyfriend of the time an my mum with me. When I was high on gas an air during the pushing part his horrible mother told them she was my mum got in room with a video camera an filmed the birth!!!! How angry was I when baby came and i realised she had been in the room over an hour and had videoed my foo!! Grrrr some people have no boundaries I'd make it very clear to her now she's not to step foot in the delivery room :)

[proudmommy2b2014]

Well when the time comes and she try to come in ask security to escort her out....