Vent!!!!!! BROKEN

[JewelzD]

I am so crushed I had a feeling and i checked my husbands phone and he was texting a girl he works with so i confront him he says we need to talk i asked if he slept with her he told me yes twice I asked him if he wants to work it out he said hes not sure things were over between him n the girl we have been married 10years and have 3 kids the youngest is 3 months. I have no friends or family I can talk to i am broken i kinda feel like i dont want to live if it wasnt for my babies i would not be writing this right now. wtf do i do I need help before i lose it

[maddynasty92]

I'm sorry to hear this but be strong yeah its going to be hard and its going to hurt be the pain will heal and you children need you if your husban dont want you then show him you dont care and he will come running back to you I'm so sorry to hear what happen but just know that I'm hear for you even though I dont know you I'll be a friend to you and if you ever need someone to talk to I'll be here....

[JewelzD]

yes i plan on it i am going to go find a new job and be able to stand ALONE and not need him for sh*t I told him i would never keep the kids from him cause they are his just as much mine he wants to continue to pay the rent and the bills but at this point i dont want anything but i know i need it right now cause i only work for a friend

[mrsCxo]

I'm so sorry. I teared up when I read this becauase as women we just naturally give our whole hearts & to be with someone for 10 years have three babies and THEN have to deal with this **** is unsettling. I don't want to tell you how you're feeling so I can only assume that your broken & hurting but far from being over it. I would say slash his tires and break his phone,  but who's that really gonna help? I would say take your time and don't rush into any descions whether its to stay or go. Men can be very manipulate, more so than us ladies, so just take your time & make aure you're there for your beautiful babies. Friends come & go, youll meet friends & I'm sure after this mess you'll get back on your feet & be ten times stronger. Keep your head up & even if it hurts, show hom you can still smile, don't give him the satisfaction of seeing you hurt!

[JewelzD]

OMG i cant stand hearing his voice right now laughing with his friend like nothing is wrong

[JewelzD]

My oldest is 10 so he keeps asking if im ok i keep telling him im fine but im dieing and wont show my kids they are my everything. Ever though i want to die right know my kids are whats keeping me grounded I wish i never had that sinking feeling and never checked his phone  id still be in the fu*king dark

[JewelzD]

I hope yous are all right right now i am just a body walking around like im dead not showing anythings wrong to the kids

[lisas9]

I think you both need some space or at least counseling. He needs to work out if he really wants the relationship to work and you need to figure out if you can get the trust back. I know people who have worked through it and people who couldn't. Try to stay strong but if you make any decisions it needs to be all about you and not because you have children. Children are strong and will be happy as long as you both are, whether apart or together. It doesn't seem like it right now, but this will make you stronger as a person. Try not to argue or say anything negative in front of your children. You will get through this.

[Mizzztaylor]

I feel for you. I really do. You're not alone and you will get through this. It won't be easy but you will get through it. Just focus on what you do have like your 3 beautiful children. They really need you and you need them.

[Bri_1985]

Not sure its over between him and the other girl?! Id stomp his arse and end it right there. That alone is a red flag to me that he doesnt deserve you.

[JewelzD]

thank you but as of right now i have nothing no feeling no emotions I am empty i need my dad right now and hes been dead 3 months I kinda want to be with him right now

[dianaexoh]

I'm so sorry that you're going through this. I would suggest getting rid of him. If he did it once he might do it again, not to mention he initially said he wasn't sure that it was over with the other girl. You and your babies deserve better.

[JewelzD]

I am not financial stable AT all i need to find a sitter that i trust to watch my baby my son and daughter go to school i need to beable to stand on my feet i really dont think we can work it out i am not sure i can get over the betrayal I love him and want this to work for our kids but wont i be hurting them by staying in a loveless marriage i dont want him touching me looking at me talking ti be or even to breath near me i have alot if hatred right now and cant cry cause im infront of my kids

[MinkY001125]

What a jerk to do this to u. To do that to his family? I dont get men, if u want a family u cant be single! Ive never been there and i hope no one has to go through that. I am so sorry this happened to u, especially with the stress of a newborn. I would kick my hubby to the curb if i saw he was romantically texting another woman, let alone cheating on me. He obviously doesnt know what he will be missing if you two separate. Good luck and only you know whats best.

[JewelzD]

he said he is scared that we go though it and prolong the hurt but it seems like im the only one hurting

[KTowne]

Well he sounds like he wants to work it out, why did he say he's not sure? If he sounds remorseful, truly, and is willing to go to counseling, if you love him enough to work it out, try it. You'd hate to go through life wondering if you would've went what would've happened. If you go to counseling, separate and together, and you don't feel like it will work, at least you know you tried and that you did all you could, the best case, he truly learns from his mistake and becomes 2x the man he was before, worst, you tried and it didn't work, either way you won't wonder what if. I know of a few couples that cheated and actually said it was the best thing that happened because they're stronger now than they've ever been, it takes a strong couple to go through that.

[JewelzD]

I asked him to go to counseling he said he will and promised me that while we are still together he wont do it again but how the he@l do i do that how do i believe him I love him more then myself and i want what's best for my kids i dont need a man but what kills me is how can he sleep with her then come home and have sex with me THANK GOD we have been using condoms cause i dont want anymore kids but really I feel so dirty

[peaches421]

Screw him. It's his loss not its. Besides ur kids need u more than ever. Men just need to learn to keep their dicks to themselves!!!

[KTowne]

I think that's your best bet, or maybe a separation? To see if he wants to man up. If you do decide to get back together I'd be making sure you're both going through counseling, him to get some help, and you to get through this, because I can't imagine it. I would leave the house or ask him to leave to get some distance for a while though.

[JewelzD]

I cant look at him i dont want to talk to him i cant even think i am blank no thoughts at all i told him ill make it easy for him we will go first thing in the morning and get divorce papers I cant do this

[KTowne]

I know this must be one of the WORST experiences in your life, this is one of my biggest fears, honestly, but if my husband were to do this to me, it'd be over, I'd never trust him again, he'd be SO done in my book. I would never be able to look at him or think of him the same again, and the fact that he could do it twice is even worse. You need to be strong for your kids right now, because this IS a hard thing for them to go through, good luck hun! :(

[ayjay13]

:( hang in there. Be strong for yourself and your kids. This is going to be confusing for them as well. You don't need a man to complete you. Even though you feel lost right now you will figure things out. And completely get any negative thought out of your head about hurting yourself. You are way more valuable than that.

[K_Bmomma]

Oh goodness I'm so sorry! What a horrible thing to have to go through ): all you gotta do is keep your head up for your babies!