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Thoughts plzz!!(NO judging)
So my little boy is 3 and a half months old, I just tested positive at the doctors...I'm freaking the hell out..My in laws are going to kill me, my FIL wants us to buy a house by January next yr and now with baby #2 already on the way I feel like its not going to happen..They are going to hate me!! Do u think we will still get to our goal or is there no hope...we are so silly but we are sort of happy at the same time..I hope we get the house before bub is due so that we can prove we are still getting somewhere in life..
Wow, its hard isn't it..well I don't want to tell anyone till we have the deposit if we can, if not then we eventually have to let it out anyway. I guess we just have to see where this takes us..either way I'm going to be happy with what I get or can't have, my babies health and what not are more important then owning a house, yes, I know we can't have everything we want but it would just be such a big accomplishment in my life and our parents would be so proud, for now our parents will look at it as if we aren't doing anything with our lives, that if we were to be making the effort, I would not be expecting again..We will try our best and I'm sure your doing the same, If there is a will there is a way, might take longer to reach our dreams but we will get there and I sure hope u all the best, thanx
I honestly enjoy having my kids close in age im 18weeks pregnant with baby #5 now baby 2 and 3 are 11months apart and baby 3 and 4 are 13 months apart.
I'm also not going to tell any family about baby 2 until I get out and get this apartment. I'm hoping to get it by October when I'm 5 months. So they won't have much to be so mad about. Cause I'm also scared to have to tell them again and all I hear is negative things and how this and that is gonna be hard and bad for me. It's not what we need right now. We need support advice and everything else positive.
I am in the same exact position you are. Exact my son was 4 months when I got pregnant again. Now he's 5 months and I'm almost 6 weeks pregnant. I have so many goals for myself that I wanted to do. But now I'm changing them around. I'm still doing something like what I wanted but it's something different. It's time to save and be more responsible. I don't think buying a house would be best. Maybe going into an apartment for all 4 of you would he so much better. My plan was to get married in June and get a good job and save with my fiancé so we could move to Texas in a beautiful apartment. Now I have to stay here in North Carolina for longer then I expected. I currently live with my gma and my fiancé lives in a whole different state. Now I need to move out because I don't wanna raise 2 children living with my gma. So now I'm about to get a good job and my fiancé will move here and get a good job and we are going to get an apartment here and stay for another year. Then we will get up and leave to Texas when we feel it's time. So now we are just making changes that are still good for us. That's what you should do. Find a way to still be happy but to have a little less than what you can get right now. I would love to talk more with you. Cause I'm looking for mommies who are going through the same thing I am or who ha went through this and could give me advice on different things about the pregnancy and labor.
Wow ... my baby is 3 months will be 4 month in 4 days and I also took a pregnancy test because I thought I was pregnant again but it came back negative but Im still not sure that test could be wrong and I could be in the same boat as you ... anyways babies are a blessing !!! :-) I have a doctors app on the 16th will find out for sure if I am or not
Thanx Specialmom, I have pretty much everything, just another carseat and if it may be a girl then some girl clothes altho I do have a fair bit of unisex clothes which is great.. We are supporting ourselves, we are very fiancialy stable..I know what u mean I don't see why they should be angry either, but that's just them..I can see y they would be a little bit upset but really what can we do now.. I hope our dreams come true then everyone can be happy..thanx mummas ya made me feel a hell of a lot better, I deffs have confidence that soon we will get there :)
Whomever mentioned the hand me downs for baby, they are so right. That does save money. Even if they aren't the same sex, who cares what sleepers they wear around the house. You'll still be able to use much of what you have. Equipment and everything. Your kiddos will be Irish Twins--- will they be right at 12 months apart? Mine were 15 and that was a bit of a whirlwind but fun in a special way.
Life sometimes throws us a curve ball and we have to roll with it. No one should get mad at a couple who is happy having another child as long as you two are providing for yourselves. If they have to support you, then that is a reason for them to be upset to add another. But otherwise, it's not their business. So, maybe your house plan will be off by a year or so but you'll get there as soon as you can if you set that as a goal.
So, do your best and stay happy!
Life sometimes throws us a curve ball and we have to roll with it. No one should get mad at a couple who is happy having another child as long as you two are providing for yourselves. If they have to support you, then that is a reason for them to be upset to add another. But otherwise, it's not their business. So, maybe your house plan will be off by a year or so but you'll get there as soon as you can if you set that as a goal.
So, do your best and stay happy!
Oh and other thing, he is due 4 days before my sons first birthday, I couldn't imagine missing out on his first birthday I will be one upset mumma.. :(
B cool m..decide soon.coz ur health is also important..Evnd little ones..if nt this yr by next ull hav a home.so make ur choice WHR ur happiness lies than others.
Yeah we could do that, but we are planning to save the deposit and pay it off, Think it might be a bit easier, I'm just hoping we get there, like u said god has a plan for us all..
Look at the bright side....It'll be allot cheaper with the second child because of the first babies hand me downs... Just stay focused and you can make it happen :)
Thats understandable. You will get there, dont stress about it. And like Mreeah says look into the income based housing.
No I'm not religious Allocate, I know its both our fault, our family just wants us to get a house and be on track before we have anymore kids
^^^thats why I asked. Im praying for you. Dont worry God has a reason for everything
You guys could try applying for income based housing, ill admit the waiting list is usually loooooong. Im sure you guys can find a cheap house/apartment! Me and my fiance pay $325 for a two bedroom house.
Y wud thy kill u..ur nt d only one reason for ur pregnancy.. Its ur hubby duty to see finical aspect ..wud u gt a child bck for a house..think bfr u act..b happy n spread happiness. God bless..
We have been saving so much we are not even half way there yet, I'm afraid of the money going back to zero to support baby #2
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