advice please (vent)

[sadies93]

I am just so stressed. My son is 4wks old and has been vomiting since he was 1wk old, half the time it was projectiled so we found out he needed surgery on his pyloric. He had the surgery 2 days ago, we just got home yesterday and the surgeron calls me TODAY and says "i forgot to tell you but during surgery we noticed fluid around his testicals so while we had him open we took a quick look with the camera and we noticed he had holes there that could lead to a hernia" he just forgot to tell me this.. And today his doc told me that he thinks my son is allergeic to the protein in milk because he is still so gassy so now we have to switch formulas again.
Besides that everything else seems to be goin wrong aswell, my fiance just found out he may lose his job and we just moved, my in laws are constantly bein jerks and I just dont know what to do anymore. Im so worried about my son, he just doesnt deserve this..
I know this isnt the right forum but I just really needed to vent.

[mrsreeder2be]

If you have a doctors note from your sons Dr stating he had surgery that should cover your husbands job. They can't fire you for medical reasons, especially with a drs note!! Good luck mama!

[sadies93]

My fiance works at walmart as a overnight stocker and his boss said he isnt working fast enough when he is one of the quicker ones there and his boss told him he had to greatly improve. We think he is goin to get fired because he had to call off friday because we were 3hrs from home due to our sons surgery and when he tried to call off walmart kept saying he wasnt in their system. He is lookin for a new job but this area is soo small that its hard to find a job.
Thanks ladies!

[mrsreeder2be]

You're going to stress no matter how hard you try not too. The goal is to manage the stress and keep it low. Do little things that make you happy, talk to friends or family, and vent when need be. That will help with the stress!

[daddysongbird56]

My baby brother had this protein issue and this made him better http://www.enfamil.com/app/iwp/enf12/product.do?dm=enf&id=/Consumer_Home3/FeedingSolutions/NutramigenAALIPIL2&iwpst=B2C&ls=0&csred=1&r=3522178270 you should give it a try! Im so sorry about the results the doc gave and hope this formula helps!

[Clysta]

Definitely don't feel bad for posting here, as said this forum isn't only for pregnant women and concerns about pregnancy.

It's normal to stress, you have a lot on your plate right now. Just try to focus on right now, and don't look too much at what ifs. Is he looking for more jobs, or has he talked to them about why he could lose it? Is there anything that can be done to prevent it? As for your in laws, just ignore them. It can be hard, but just smile, nod your head and tune it out (I do this with my FIL daily, he hates it!) I would also look into a new doctor. He 'forgot' to tell you something else was wrong, he 'thinks' your son has an allergy... Testing can confirm this (many newborns are gassy for several reasons beyond allergies) and he doesn't seem to take his job seriously. You don't want someone like that in charge of your child's health.

[mrsrios02]

We are all here for support. Yes this is a "Pregnancy Forum" but we are all mothers(or TTC) and we all have problems sometimes. Please dont apologize for needing to talk.
I'm so sorry you are going through this and I hope things get better for you and your fa,ily

[sadies93]

Thanks ladies its just so hard not to stress out over all of this

[gokuangel]

Definetly but as mrsreeder.. said stay strong for your son and it will alll work out!! My son has gone through things too and i ve had the baby daddy drama it can be alot but i know it will be ok! My son had a milk allergy and projectile vomited the first few days he was home then he choked and stopped breathing one day and i found out after a couple of ER trips that he has reflux and he had to take medicine twice a day every day!  We all go through stuff and it can be really over whelming especially as a new mom cus you want to fix it all at once but just take a deep breathe and enjoy your new baby the rest will work itself out!!

[mrsreeder2be]

I know it can be scary and overwhelming dealing with all this when your son is so young. BUT the good thing is he is so young, he won't remember any of this and he will be a happy baby once all his problems are fixed. My youngest is a very sick baby and constantly having procedures or in the hospital so I understand what you're going through! The biggest thing is to be strong for your baby boy! He needs mama the most!! Good luck hun, everything will work out for the best!!