just wondering

[JalielsMommy]

Ok so last week I had to go to the hospital because I was having really strong contractions. When I got to the hospital they were checking me & the Dr told me I was in pre-term labor (I'm 29weeks 5days pregnant). I was 3.50cm dilated well they gave me a shot in my butt that was to mature the baby's lungs & they gave me this pills to stop the contractions they helped a lot & I wasn't going to labor because they stopped them on time. I stayed in the hospital for 3 days then they let me go but said I couldn't walk or stand for a longtime because the baby's already too low (in position). They gave me a list of stuff I can & can't do & one of the things they said I couldn't do was have sex for 4 weeks. Ok so my question is it has only been 1 week since all this happened & my husband wants to have sex. What could happen if I had sex now would it harm me or the baby in any way ? Thanks

[trying43]

With my first son I was on complete pelvic rest for 7 1/2 months of the pregnancy but we survived!! Lol good luck

[JalielsMommy]

Yeaa I'm defenetly gonna wait I don't want baby to come this soon! Thanks for all the advice you've given me ladies it help me a lot :)

[PetiteWonder]

=) definitely explore other ways to enjoy intimacy.. I was on bed rest from 31 until 34 weeks due to preterm labor concerns...    When we did have sex again (once given the okay by my OB), we used pull out method as sperm had a history of giving me cramps and contractions....  worked like a charm.. when we did stop using around the pull out method,  i went into labor at 37 weeks but it stopped on its own when i was 3 cm and I didnt end up giving birth until the day before my due date..

but definitely wait on the sex because you dont want to have your baby this soon and with you being 3.5 CM dilated already, it wont take much to send you into active labor

[stacey10]

promise him a happy ending if he gives you an hour massage hahaha then yeah he maywell fall asleep and your off the hook until the next time lol

[JalielsMommy]

Ur right :) I won't die if I wait for 4 weeks cuz is for my baby & like u said is worth it plus were gonna have plenty of time to have sex after the baby's born!

[amy8702]

And oh so worth it :)

[JalielsMommy]

Dam that's worst but it's all for the little one :)

[amy8702]

Oh trust me, I know! We went from every other day to nothing for 3 months!!!!

[JalielsMommy]

Lol that's a good one :) it ***** not having sex for 4 weeks.

[amy8702]

Just go with an entire body massage, then maybe you'll get lucky. He'll be too tired and pass out lmao. Happened for me when I was preg ;) lmao

[JalielsMommy]

That's a great idea :) lol I'm defenetly telling him to give me not one but a few massages

[stacey10]

yep, but he's a man!!! make him give you a massage first so at least you can enjoy something :) a fair trade off I'd say :)

[JalielsMommy]

Ur so right lol I just don't think is fair that I have to give him pleasure & I don't get nothing :( haha

[stacey10]

elcuding the intercourse of course haha :)

[stacey10]

I know it can be hard and I havent even gone thru what your going thru, but some of my pregnancies I didnt want a bar of it lol, and then they get that look, and you know that they still have there needs lol, I hope I didnt sound harsh I just thought that if he was pestering you about it you should give him a slap around the head lol and tell him not to be selfish lol but thats not the case, so ..... have some fun with him :)

[JalielsMommy]

Lol it's ok :) & ur defenetly right! I mean he didn't tell me he actually want it to have sex but his telling me how he misses having sex which I totally understand because I do too ;) but he knows we have to wait. I'll defenetly give him pleasure in another way because my baby comes first & he agrees with me 100% Thanks :)

[stacey10]

sorry about sp mistakes brstfeeding a wriggling 6 mth old :)

[stacey10]

well they told you not to have sex for a reason and that reason is that it could harm the baby by starting pre-term labour again, if you orgasim the contraction of your uterus could start them up again and so could his seamen, as that is one way to help kick start labour when you are full term? whats more important to your husband a healthy  full term (or as close to it) baby or to have sex? Why dont the two of you look into other ways of giving him "pleasure" if he cant go without for a couple of weeks. If it were me I would err on the side of caution and I wprobably wouldnt be having sex again for longer than 4 weeks.