law

[cmm20]

So my son is 3 weeks old today nd his dad has a drug problem along w an extensive background. I cant get his dad to spend time w him. nd i dnt trust him w my son... wut r my chances of getting full custody? In court hed use in his defense tht hes completed drug classes nd domestic violence class but i can prove he still gets high.. so all advice is appreciated

[Ariel_21]

With mines I have proof of him said hell beat my *** and put me in the hospital for real. I have text msgs Facebook convos. Him commenting going off on me on my Facebook cover photo him said he hope I die and **** me and the baby. Etc etc i save them all even from his old number. So anything you have against him try and use it my bd will not be on my son birth cert. he's denying his child now. But I am putting him on child support and a DNA test will be done. Since he won't sign his rights over.

[motogp93]

cmm20 none of us are lawyers but we can simply tell you of how we're handling or have handled our own personal experiences. I would say contact a general attorney free of charge. File for child support and mention this to them.

[motogp93]

kmommy2b, really? That's sounds super unfortunate /: what state is this? I'm in Texas and my chances are pretty good. My lawyer said so because my bd sells, smokes, and grows. And he used to be an alcoholic with two failed AA meeting but I've never really had that bad of an issue with it. He has PTSD from combat but I'd never blame that or bring that up but of course he lashes out frequently because of it. I have tried to make him comply and stop consuming and selling because I would never want my daughter to see that growing up but of course. Nothing would change.

[cmm20]

O hed b clean for court. No doubt. But i have text messages even from his parents. nd i can get more

[kmommy2b]

My bfs ex did everything to try to take his daughter and she was unsuccessful.. he wasnt as bad as ur explaining ur bd to be but he was smoking pot and drinking. She had her family testify that he did all these bad things and whether he did or not, it was hearsay. She tried showing text messages that she wrote down but they werent accepted bc theres no proof he actually wrote them. The judge basically told him that he has a right to have at least partial custody of his daughter and as long as he shows good judgement and decent character in his actions. You need concrete proof that he cant be a good father.  We have her every other weekend and once during the week now

[motogp93]

They can drug test him free of charge but he's likely to be clean so like I said keep any and all recent proof. What my friend suggested was kinda cough it out of him. Record his call. It's legal in Texas and kinda go with "the reason why I don't want you around is because of "drugs" when are you gonna stop?" etc.

[motogp93]

Well I'm in a similar situation. Very similar. However my baby isn't here yet. I've done lots of research and have contacted an attorney and my good friend is a cop. Thankfully I've gotten good advice. Since he's on the birth certificate he has the same rights as you. Which is why I'm not adding my baby daddy to the BC. And when I apply for child support it's likely they'll add him anyway but I don't want him to have immediate rights until he files for some type of custody. That's when I'll prove that he's unfit. I suggest you speak to an attorney and have his rights terminated. File for child support. It's free and you can bring this up and they'll help you out :) they'll ask why and you lay it out on them. I have kept track of messages, emails, photos. Everything. If bad comes to worse. File an anonymous tip and they'll keep an eye on him. And he'll get caught and that will diminish his chances.

[kmommy2b]

Im pretty sure if u get him drug tested for custody you have to pay for it.. thats how it is in pa anyway my bfs ex tried sayin he was on drugs but didnt wanna cough up the money to get him tested.. by the time you guys go to court he may also be clean already so keep that in mind court dates take a while

[cmm20]

Yes. Hes on the b.c. he was there for the birth.

[cmm20]

Anyone gone thru this?

[motogp93]

Did you place him on the birth certificate?

[stfu123]

You could very well get full cutody. Prove it to them, of he sends you any type of messages about not wanting to see the baby, keep them print them out and use them against him. Also they drug test him before he could get any type of custody. Good luck :) !