i dont get it

[RoopStetter]

I am 20 weeks pregnant and my husband pretty much ignores the fact that I am. Like I am constantly doing thing I shouldn't be doing lifting things that are too heavy cleaning the oven because he refuses too and everyone knows how pleasant oven cleaner is. I spent 2 weeks painting And moving into our new place and he helped 2 days. Out of 14. I've been freaking the past few weeks about our newest little moving because she doesn't like ever and I finally have a day where she moves a lot and I asked if he wanted to feel his answer was "no. What is little doing?" (We call our son little). I just don't get it. He was so involved with our first pregnancy and now he just pretends its not there. My mother in law had to remind him that I was pregnant. "Oh yea!" Was his answer. He went to one ultrasound because I threw a fit.I told him a month in advance about my anatomey scan and to tell his boss that he would be going into work late and he still told me that he wasn't going BC he had booked a lot of jobs that day and forgot. I'm sick of it. This is his baby too! I didn't do it by myself and why is our.daughter so much different than our son???? Ugh! I'm just so upset by it all.

[RoopStetter]

My hubby has a tough work schedule too but we just found out we were having a girl. Idk maybe your right and yes just afraid that a 2nd child will be too much or something but his sister and her fiance are having their 4th and he is so good for her. Midnight grocery store runs and foot rubs nightly makes every appointment and I just think that he used to be like that why is it with her number for her man is just as good as with their first. Idk a little jealous and confused.

[lisaerin86]

My hubby helped so much with my first pregnancy too he would clean the bathroom every week. I am now 30+5 with a girl (we have a 20month old son) and he doesn't rub my belly like my first or help clean anymore. But he also has a tough work schedule so I just let it go. He says for him its so weird to think he is having a girl bc he has no idea how to even raise one. He doesn't hold anyone elses babies except ours and I know once she is here he will be hooked. Maybe he is the same way my hubby is and the thought of having a daughter scares the poo out of him?

[RoopStetter]

Yea but whenever I try he just turns it into a fight or says I'm over reacting and changes the subject.

[ssimms]

That's not fair at all have you talked to him about why he is acting this way?

[RoopStetter]

I know there are so many rants on this page I just feel like its not Fair