makes me sad...

[kris2813]

I see and hear so many people say how they are afraid if their baby may have down syndrome and it makes me so sad. A baby born from God in any form is still a blessing. yes, the baby may not be "normal" according to society standards, but he/she is still a gift. So if anybody is scared that their baby may have downs then I am sorry you feel that way. I am not trying to be ugly, it just makes me really upset. I have had my own experience with the most amazing little boy who I babysat ever since he was about 3 who has downs, he is 13 now and will be 14 in February. There are different forms of down syndrome and some people may be high functioning, low functioning or even in the middle. For the little boy I babysat, he is considered low functioning. In my personal opinion, don't be afraid about it, just embrace it. I truly believe that special people are blessed with extra special children. And yea, they may need a little more care and nurturing but at the end of the day they will love you like you have never been loved before. If God so chooses to give you a baby with downs, there is a reason for it. My rant is over, Happy Thanksgiving everybody! :)

[kris2813]

Preachy or not, I am stating my opinion, as are you. But, anyways, I am done with this post and forum. There are so many reasons as to why I hardly ever posted anything and this is one of them, people are too sensitive. I already stated that  I know there is a difference between babysitting and having a special needs child of your own. I am not dumb in the least bit. I know not to compare apples to oranges. I have gone to school, studied, and I have also had my own experiences. And although, there is a big difference between those things and having a special needs child of my own, I don't feel as if I would be ill equipped. I was just saying that I don't think it has to be a scary thing.  Also, I don't feel as if any parent should feel guilty for having a child with Downs, they can't control it and there is nothing they could do to prevent it.  

From now on,  I will stick with asking questions to my doctor and talking about these sorts of things with my husband and not on here. I may even be preachy about it, who knows!

[Nellyzz]

I understand where you all are coming from. but I got checked for down syndrome as a ftm I thought if my child is going to have abnormalities I would like to know!  every parent prays for a healthy child! im not saying down syndrome babies arnt healthy im saying me being a first time mother I would like to know as its not easy and my best friends kid is down syndrome and its hardwork he constantly needs a minder and she loves him to death but she has stated herself he needs more attention then her other kids! all im saying is if my child is down syndrome I would like to know! and yes any child is a gift from god!!

[harribee]

This came across really preachy to me. I'm sure anyone worried their child has DS is already feeling guilty enough without you saying this. Like someone else said, babysitting is nothing in comparison. Having a disabled child changes your life in so many unimaginable ways.

[likklehev]

I never got tested for anything it wouldn't matter yo me whether my little girl has anything or not I will love her just the same in fact if she did have anything wrong id probably love her more as she will need more love and care my cousin is downs and hes absolutely brill he has a job and is doing excellent he has his bad points but hes the most fantastic person ever and just wants to please

[kris2813]

umm, yes I do realize that with my experience with babysitting and my own child is completely different. Again, I was simply stating that we get what we are handed and it's best to handle it with a positive attitude, not a scared one. I do realize that we have the freedom to state our opinions, but these days it's like nobody can post their opinions without being judged in some way or another, that is why I hardly ever post anything.
I am an educated woman and have actually studied special needs, and although there is a difference between studying and actually being placed in the position of having a child with special needs, I feel as if I don't need to fret about it, but that is just me. Maybe I believe in the power of God too much, and know that whatever I am given, I can always look towards Him for guidance when I am feeling worry-some or scared.

[RileyNjordsMommy3]

I agree with most of what your saying kris218, However i will just say that you having experience with a child you babysat is entirely different than it being a child of your own. My opinion, we cant say we would or wouldnt feel a certain way because it isnt us being told the news.  Yes, it would be in the parents best interest to do their research, but im strictly talking about getting the news first.Again, all this is my opinion.

[kris2813]

Well of  course nobody hopes for a child with special needs. I was simply stating that, it's important to just embrace whatever you child may be. And just because a child is born with special needs, it does not necessarily mean that they are not healthy, ya know? I agree, it is something that everybody is entitled to be nervous about, but I guess I just have a slightly different view on the matter because I have been around a child who has it and I have that experience.  I would be nervous, too but I don't think I will be afraid if my child were born with any type of special needs. I would just do my homework and learn as much about it as I could to provide the very best I possibly can for my baby. I wasn't trying to state that anybody's feelings towards their baby would be any different, I was just trying to say that, we get what we are given and we have no control over it so it's best to handle it as best as we know how to and to learn about whatever it is our children are born with. For me, I will probably get the tests done for abnormalities just because if it does turn out that my baby is born with an "abnormality" I can do my research and prepare myself for what's to come. But that's just me! :)

[RileyNjordsMommy3]

I agree with shyloveskai.  I dont think people are scared because they wont love any different or for reasons that are negative. Its just a fear that every parent has. Everyone wants to know if their babys are healthy and arent prepared for news like that. I had the testdone with my first pregnancy and i was exttemely anxious about it and therefore i chose not to get it done my last one and this one. Its just scary news to hear when its your child.  Doesn not mean we would feel any different about the baby. I do agree with your post but every parent has every right to be nervous or scared or whatever emotion goes through their mind in hearing the news.  I know i would be an emotional wreck.

[newmama21]

^^I agree with shy, I did not get the test done just because I would love my child regardless but if she did have special needs I would definitely be scared because raising a child is very hard amd raising a special needs child would just make it that much harder. If it did happen I know god plans things for a reason and I would be able to handle it but I also think there would be some thoughts in the back of my head like if I could have done anything different to prevent it

[shyloveskai]

I think people are afraid because most  people dont hope to have a special needs child. Although i would love my child unconditionally no matter what (thats why i didnt test for abnormalities at all) i am certainly hoping my child is not special needs because i have no experience with it and it would likely make things a lot harder for me. I agree that every child is a blessing, im just saying why i think people are afraid of having that in their life.

[Jaidex]

This is beautiful! Couldnt of said it better myself.