mixed feelings

[mrsh72911]

Some of you may had read my other post, well I jusr found out last week I was 20weeks pregnant. Vert unplanned  esp with our currevt situation. Anyways when we found out we were pregnant with our first we were beyond thrilled. I love her more than life its self and really wanted to hold off on having more. I don't have the same feelings as before, I'm also asking myself can I love another baby as much as my daughter. I don't want her time taken from her. Are these normal feelings, I'm feeling bad thinking them.

[Sarah765]

I had that exact feeling with my second.  I was so afraid that I wouldnt be as in love with him as my daughter, I just didnt see how that was possible.  And I was so worried  about my daughters time with me being less.  But I fell madly in love with my son tge second he was born, and his sister fell in love with him too.  We would all snuggle together almost everytime he nursed, she would sit and just rub his little cheeks.  She loved helping, and playing with him.  She is just about 6 now, and he is 4.  They are best friends.  It amazes me how much we can love, I fell in love with my third the same.  Don't feel bad about your feelings, they are so normal.  But don't worry it will all work out just fine!

[mrsh72911]

I noticed your first two are very close in age ours will be .15 months apart. I figured they were normal feelings. Thank you both

[myost8315]

Very normal! I cried a lot with my second in fear of making my son feel left out.. But i kept him active in helping and they're now 5 and 4 with number 3 on the way. Just relax a little and be excited that your daughter now has a life long friend!

[AshleyLile]

Yes there normal.... It's a big fear to moms of only one an expecting but you will figure out how to love them tge same and divide your attention equally :)