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Anybody elses mother in law driving them nuts? I've always thought of her to be so sweet. Sometimes she's too much for me. She has a lot of energy now. An every time she calls an I don't answer (she calls 3xs a week. Her conversations are like an hour+ long. An she talks over me.) But every time I don't answer she'll call my husband an keeps bugging him if I'm mad at her or if I'm okay. The first time I didn't answer I thought that was sweet. But now it's a little annoying. On top of that she insist I call her mom. I'm not comfortable with calling her mom. I've told her an my husband why. It's hard for me to call my own step mom, who is basically my mom, mom. My mother is a poor excuse for a mom. To me when i say mom i see my mother. An I don't want to see her when I'm talking to them. But she took it offensively. An when she last called she wouldn't hang up till I called her mom. So i just handed my husband the phone. But now I find out the week I'm supposed to be due my husband is supposed to be in the field! Like seriously?? So what's he do? Asks his mom to stay with me that week! My family is closer. I would rather have one of them here cause well they all know their boundaries. But is it wrong for me to feel annoyed? Am I being rude? He thinks it's funny, an I'm just dreading the day now.
Can't be worried about her health gotta worry about you and the baby. My MIL is very religious very set in her ways loud doesn't have a problem causing fights even with my husband to prove a point. I know I'm gonna have to stand up to her at some point cuz I won't agree with something she'll do with my baby. Oh the joys :)
I'm just scared that I'll snap on her. She struggled with depression really bad. An she was unhealthy. Her doctors had her on all types of meds. But made her worse. Well I told her maybe walking will help. Since then they took her off the meds an the exercise has basically healed her, an a healthy diet. But I'm scared if I snap I'll send her back.
My MIL is horrible also. My husband and I already have a son (Parker) together and she is just so stressful! This is our 2nd child and she is so mad that I am pregnant again. She thinks I am "trapping" my husband. I get so annoyed because if we even mention this baby she refuses to even acknowledge that I am pregnant. She's makes me so damn mad. I on the other hand have no problem telling her off. We have had numerous arguments over her trying to tell me how to be a mother or hell even a wife. I feel for you. Your best bet is to invite someone from your family also and if she gives you too many problems just tell her to leave. The stress of a new baby is hard enough much less having to put up with a horrible MIL!
@cyn I knooow ugh and when I talk to her or Mention getting our own place she gets all hurt and upset and says oh I dont feel good im going to my from, like uh okay ? It drives me insane..
@kayla413 oh my goodness. My MIL does the same thing! She wants to rub an kiss my belly. An honestly it makes me uncomfortable, violated, an makes me feel like a damn petting zoo. She babies my husband so much that she's told me she wants a divorce from his step dad but she's scared to tell him cause she doesn't want him to act out. Act out? Really?
My mil and her bf started dating about 6 months after me n my bf started dating. When I moved in with tanner(my bf) she had her bf move in with her very shortly after, and ever since they act like everything is a relationship competition lol do when we announced we were preggers we even jokingly said"but please don't go making any babies now" do when tanner called me on his lunch today and said"you will never believe what my mom and her bf just told me" my stomach dropped lol. Turns out they stent having a baby, but instead GETTING MARRIED! (AROUND THE SAME TIME I'M HAVING OUR BABY). i'm so pissed. They are i'm their 40 s, we are in our 20 s. Why the competition?!
@ftmama626 I'm sorry for your lose
@yourstruly21 it's so frustrating /:
@jwilliams81 my feelings exactly
@yourstruly21 it's so frustrating /:
@jwilliams81 my feelings exactly
I know how you feel ! Except my MIL refuses to let my 22 year old babysfatherr/boyfriend grown up! Smuthers him and insists we live with her forever, and my boyfriend being the biggo mamas boy he is doesn't want to leave & at first I was okay with it she was nice did alot for us now it's really annoying my boyfriend has an amazing job she makes him pays no bills he does nothing around the house he disrespects her and she says "that's my baby though" she always touches my belly with out asking just comes up and rubs on me, she never lets me cook or clean insists I sit down she can do everything I try telling her im not cripple im pregnant okay, she smuthers my boyfriend tells him behind my back she doesn't want him leaving and he doesn't want to grow up n get his own place neither I say dang might as well wipe our butts too!
My bf mom is the same way!!! Grr it is irritating! And she acts like this because I'm very close with my mom...she wants to have this mother and daughter in law relationships when her son is NOT even thinking about marrying me right now ugh...she wants me to depend on HER when ofcourse I would seek help and advice from MY own mother first! And its gets to me when she wants me to call her MOM just to get to my mother...it is not cool at all ..it is like a battle of the grandmas right now and my son isn't even here yet lol and she already has grandchildren...this will be my mother's FIRST grandchild! Ok I'm done venting lol
My bf mom is the same way!!! Grr it is irritating! And she acts like this because I'm very close with my mom...she wants to have this mother and daughter in law relationships when her son is NOT even thinking about marrying me right now ugh...she wants me to depend on HER when ofcourse I would seek help and advice from MY own mother first! And its gets to me when she wants me to call her MOM just to get to my mother...it is not cool at all ..it is like a battle of the grandmas right now and my son isn't even here yet lol and she already has grandchildren...this will be my mother's FIRST grandchild! Ok I'm done venting lol
Feel lucky, I wish my mother on law was still here to be a part of my pregnancy snag meet her grandbaby
My MIL is in for a world of hurt when realizes I'm not a zombie pushover like the rest of the girls in this family. She's mad at me cuz I told her I don't want her and the whole fam (5 sisters & 1 sil) sitting at the hospital when I deliver. She already has a fave grandkid (my step daughter) and yet she thinks cuz she had 2 kids 30+ yrs ago she can tell me how to be a mom! She told me to ask for a csection cuz there's nothing wrong with that she had one. I've had one natural doing it again! Grr makes my blood boil! I feel all your pains :)
I know EXACTLY what yu mean! My husband is and only child too which only makes things more difficult:/
@yourstruly21....oh my goodness...since we're naming our baby emmelia Isabella. I've told everyone I do NOT like the nicknames Izzy and Emma. She's been calling our baby rasberry, Emily, Emma, and Izzy. When I called her peanut once on the phone she nearly had a heart attack. My hormones literally about to be out the door with her. An what doesn't help is that he's her only child. So of course he's a mamas boy an she babies him. But this is our child. Not hers. I get it's her only grandchild but my goodness man. Enough already please. @bri_1985 I think I would rather deal with that lol. My family they're not known to be nice. Like they're very blunt. So it's a little hard for me to be nice to her. Like I feel I'm walking on eggshells.
Have someone from your family come too. That way you're not alone with her and it gives her someone else to talk to. And yes my MIL drives me nuts too. She thinks I should quit school and my job because she doesnt think Im going to be able to do both. My hubby has to tell her off sometimes. And whenever she calls me and I mention school cause she asks each time she's always like "Still going to school huh?" in a condescending tone.
Omg I feel the same way! Like since I got pregnant she really gets under my skin and idk if its my hormones or not but she spells my sons name wrong everytime she texts me and it really ticks me off. She spels it casius and it CASSIUS! lol n ive told her numerous times shes spelling it wrong!!
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