mother in law

[mcmillens2013]

Does anyone else have a mother in law who thinks its okay to post what the gender of your baby is before you or your husband have the chance to? Or post pictures of the baby's room before us too? And says it doesn't matter that she posted it because it only went out to her friends and not any of ours... and be mad at us for saying that it wasnt her place to have posted it yet and that she just wants to show her excitement for the baby and mad at us for not letting her. How do you deal with people like this? Seriously I'm 19 weeks pregnant and I'm so upset about this and she makes it seem like its not even a big deal. Its my f-ing baby and she has taken things away from me that I will never get back.

[ohalie]

Sharing info on social media should be your decision. My own mom hasn't posted anything without my permission. And I do think its a big deal, it's your news to share. Just tell her how you feel and how you are happy she's excited. But in the end, you should always get the first word about your child, including social media

[Sibsies]

Just had an argument witg my step mom about this last night. She's going around telling everyone all my news about the baby and engagement and got pissed at me cause I told her that it was making me upset.

[Dessypoobear]

I have alot of issues with my mil I got to the point where she won't be in my son's life. I would set boundaries it's your child not hers. She had her chance and no you don't have to share your child...they are yours and if you want to do something that's yours.

[Melissa_Yvette]

I personally do think that it's kind of a big deal. That's disrespectful to you. My mil is the same way even has tried telling me how to raise my son that I'm doing everything wrong. Apparently I'm doing things wrong because I don't give him sodas and cookies all day -_- and he's not fat like my nephew is. Trust me I know how you feel, let her be upset all she wants this isn't her pregnancy. Mils don't know when to back off

[Sarah_Jones3]

I'm sorry that happened and understand how frustrating that can be. I get where the other lady said in the long run its not that big of a deal but it is to you right now! Just don't tell her things you want to keep private. Once you tell then she can know. Like you said it's your baby. If she gets upset about it oh well. You've told her to keep things to herself and she didn't so you're taking into your own hands. Then down the road she can say it wasn't a big deal. Hope this helps! :)

[AnotherBoyInNovForThisMommy]

Personally I think she's right. But I only say that because in time these little things won't matter. I'll never forget putting my son the swing for what I thought was his first time and being so excited that I almost cried then having my sister in law tell me we took him to the park twice already-____-  not only did they not tell me but she purposely busted my little bubble and took enjoyment out of how sad it made me that I didn't get to see his first time on a swing. Over a year later I look back on it and realize it was silly. Its your child yes but he's her grandchild as we'll. one of you has to be the bigger person and decide to share. And trust me it ain't gonna be her. So the next time she upsets you by being overbearing just think about how much she must love your child and remember that's your child's grandmother. Pls don't be one of those moms that cuts ties with family over things that won't matter 20yrs from now.