need advice

[Tinkerbizzle]

Ok...I'm sure this will make me sound completely dumb but I was dating a married man for 7 months...he told me they were separated and that he didn't talk to her at all so I believed him and fell in love...I'm 6 weeks pregnant and I've known for almost two weeks but hadn't told him yet case I didn't know how because before when I got pregnant he told me to get an abortion but I don't have the heart to do that...and as of yesterday I guess now he is back with his wife and idk if I should tell him or just let them live their life because I was the dumb one that believed his lies....

[Jld83]

I would tell him flat out that your pregnant and your going to keep the baby. He can either be a part of its life or not. Then get his butt for child support. Just dont stress over him because its not worth it. Good luck. :)

[BossLadyy]

I would tell him & if doesnt step up , well **** HIM. But your child is way more important . & when you have the baby put his sorry *** on child support.
Im pretty sure you want the best for YOUR child NOT him !
Maybe youll find a man one day & he'll be willing to be a father to your kid.
Good luck hun :)

[clolvsdaz]

Hey. You are not the one in the wrong if you was single and he told you he was seperated why wouldnt you belive him. You need to tell the bloke even if he doesnt want to know im afraid its not for your benefit but for your babies sake everybody has the right to know who there really parents are. If he choses not to care least u can tell your baby when he/shes old enough who he is. Providing you belive in yourself and know you can do this by yourself of course you will have support of family and friends and theres always someone here with exellent advice. No one can force you to have an abortion its a decision only you can make. Theres plenty of option for you to consider think about what you want if you want this baby adoption abortion once youve made your mind up then tell him and stick to your guns its your body thats going to do all the changes. Goverment can helps with money. Just take some you time to relax a reach a decsion dont get stressed as not good for either of you look after yourself. Congratulation by the way hope everything works out.

[clolvsdaz]

Hey. You are not the one in the wrong if you was single and he told you he was seperated why wouldnt you belive him. You need to tell the bloke even if he doesnt want to know im afraid its not for your benefit but for your babies sake everybody has the right to know who there really parents are. If he choses not to care least u can tell your baby when he/shes old enough who he is. Providing you belive in yourself and know you can do this by yourself of course you will have support of family and friends and theres always someone here with exellent advice. No one can force you to have an abortion its a decision only you can make. Theres plenty of option for you to consider think about what you want if you want this baby adoption abortion once youve made your mind up then tell him and stick to your guns its your body thats going to do all the changes. Goverment can helps with money. Just take some you time to relax a reach a decsion dont get stressed as not good for either of you look after yourself. Congratulation by the way hope everything works out.

[Tinkerbizzle]

Thank you all so much!

[CMarie81]

hey, dont beat yourself up about it, its not your fault, you were totally single and thought he was too! believing his lies doesn't make you dumb or sound dumb! i was in a relationship for 12 months and then found out he was engaged to someone else and had been for years! i had absolutely no idea and i felt such a fool! my advice would be to tell him about the baby, but explain that is in no way an attempt to cause trouble or split his family up but that you thought he had a right to know, give him the opportunity to be involved without you wanting a relationship with him or to walk away, but either way it takes 2 to make a baby and he is just as responsible, he should still be contributing towards your babies upkeep or giving you financial support if he wants to see it   or not! be strong, you can do it! lots of love Xx

[taylorann25]

Don't worry about him. I know what you are going through and just like heva18kyasmum said you really can't help who you fall in love with. But even if you think they are still together  you should tell him anyway. If he is still talking about you getting an abortion then you need to cut the conversation short you don't need the stress he's trying to bring into your life. Don't worry even if he don't want to be apart of your baby life don't cry or stress just get on your knees and pray ask God for strength,courage and wisdom. Believe me it works you will be alright :-)

[heva18kyasmum]

Its fine I've been in a similar situation myself so I can understand just keep strong and think of the baby stress really wont help this is a good forum and there are lots of people on here that are really helpful hope you start to feel better soon x

[Tinkerbizzle]

Thank you so much for your advice...im goimg through a hard time with this ordeal and really can't think straight...

[heva18kyasmum]

It was his fault for telling you he was no longer married so please don't blame yourself tell him just incase he wants to be envolved if not be strong you can do it in your own but please don't blame yourself we can't help who we fall for it was him that said he was seperated its not your fault xx