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I just had to terminate my pregnancy at 10 weeks for it was a parcial tubal pregnancy.. I need advise on a few things.. for one, I'm totally heart broken and have this empty feeling. Other than giving it time, how can I look at a baby or a pregnant woman with out bursting into tears... ( at target today and had a major melt down with all the soon to be mommys ) and how can I avoid all the baby sections at stores? Seemed like everywhere I turned there was cute baby stuff and little diapers and such... and the pregnancy adds on tv. First responce is the main one lol I change the channel right when I see it but burst into tears.. I'm also outraged with my family and a few 'friends'.. when I told them I was pregnant they turned their backs and didn't support me.. many told me to get rid of it.. but now that I had to terminate due to medical reasons they are full of sympathy and 'love'. Fresh flowers and cards... I just want to throw them away!!
apart from time, and it does heal, I would seriously re-evaluate your friends/family and def shed those ones who wernt there for you, it maybe time so get some new positive people in your life :) take care
Me too. Just hope their isn't any complication with the next pregnancy... if there is another one... thanks again for help.
I'm not sure after they have to terminate but I got pregnant about 2 months after I lost the baby and we weren't trying just not being very careful. I hope it happens fast for you.
I'm sorry mommybear, it ***** huh? I just wish there was something they could have done... how long did it or does it take to get pregnant after something like this?
I hear ya, I had that iud for 5 years. Had a couple problems at first heavy flows and horrible cramps. Towards the end it ended up twisting to where the arms were to my front and back instead of the normal way. Never again lol. Now I'm just going to go all natual and hope to get pregnant again. My time for a baby is now. My son is 10 next month. And I feel my clock is ticking out of time... and I'm only 27... well pain meds are kicking in thank the Gods. Thanks for all your support ladies. It has helped
I'm so sorry for your loss, I had a miscarriage last year and even though I already had 2 kids it was horrible I would cry at every baby or pregnant woman I saw and for me it didn't get better until I got pregnant again (she's 8 weeks now) and then the pain eased but I would (and still do) wonder about the baby we lost, but now it's so much easier. And as far as the family & friends go it'll get easier to forgive and speak to them, after I lost the baby my grandfather (who didn't think we could afford or care for another baby right then) told me god takes care of fools and little children, he took care of this. I was so angry and hurt I just couldn't believe he would say that and I refused to tell him about my next pregnancy I didn't care I he knew or not but he adores all of our daughters and we're ok now.
Girl good luck and hope all is well with ur next baby.jus stay strong.tubal pregnancy always scared me bc I had the marina(iud) and I had to have surgery to get it removed bc of course I had to be the 1 in how ever many it got messed up n.i thought id never have kids again but now im 20weeks.so have faith it all will get better for u.
Thanks ladies. I will lookm into coun. Just never in my life thought this would happen. @ apefro, yes I can still have babies. I will be trying again here in a few. Just waaiting to heal.
Im so sorry tht happened to u.i just have two questions if u dont mind.can u have kids again and how dis they tell at 10 weeks? Jw. But honestly u cant avoid every baby thing forever.i no it must be so hard to look at baby stuff but if u went longer and didnt no it could have posible killed u.and for the family and friends thing, id have a hard time keepn the stuff they gave me or talkn to them.they werent there to give u support when u wantd it but there when its all bad.im sorry
Honestly there is no advice other than time ..I had a missed miscarriage at 15 weeks an felt the same as u every where I looked there was a reminder ..I already had a daughter but the pain from losing a child is hard no matter what ..essentially that's what happened to u as well ..I'm sorry ...as for rude family I hear u loud an clear I was 18 when i had my daughter an was pregnant with the one I lost at 19 when I told people the baby had died they were basically like ur young or u already have one ,u have plenty a time to have more...smh ...u have the right to mourn an time is the only thing that'll make this better ..it took me almost 7 years to get the courage to be preg again .I hope u feel better soon ..
I'm so sorry for your loss and how unsupportive everyone was of your pregnancy. I think what you're feeling is natural...however you could go and talk to a doc about it...get some counselling.. time will help but won't heal. I'm so sorry again...for wwhat you're going through..I have Jo advice but maybe someone who has been through.a similar experience can help you a lot.. if you ever need someone to just talk to..feel free to pop me a message any time. Big hugs...x
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