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Ive always been a single father.. down for my kids. Im mid thirties, 3 teens.. not father of the year but im still taking care of my kids on my own and all alone.. but in may i met someone. Shes in early twenties. Smart. Beautiful. Ambitious. Funny. All the things i admire in a woman. Any ways she was fresh out of a relationship and we started dating. Turns out she was prego.. now we are honest and she told me she didnt know she was.. and it wasnt mine. I made a choice to stay. Which i do not regret or think diferently about now. Soon baby will be here. Just wondering if I should ir even if I could? Put my name on birth certificate?

destinyb108 · Answer

Lol u do love her.. If u plan on getting married or staying with her.. Do it, if your not 100% don't.. And also make sure the bio dad is completely out of the picture, it may be drama for later.. But on another note.. I have a friend that got with a girl early on in her pregnancy.. People did talk about him, but were more impressed of how he stepped up as a man at such an early age and took on a responsibility he didn't have to.. They went on to have two of their own little girls and are still together 6 years later.. And no one could tell the difference between her child and the two they have together.. At this point it doesn't even matter.. He's daddy .. So u'll be find, just remember the love when the going get's rough

Babyg92 · Answer

yup. you're a good man and i hope nothing but the best for you and your family. good luck and i hope nothing but the best. that girl is one lucky one.

realfather · Answer

Like i said.. i am a real father.. not a baby maker. All 3 teens have the same mother. She just chose to walk out on us. And ive forgivin her and moved on. Im not father of the year.. ive made my mistakes and bad choices in life..but ive learned from them. And giving up on my kids or step kids is one thing ill never do.

Nellyzz · Answer

I would say if you are going to father that child go for it! that is so sweet! aww :))

shyloveskai · Answer

Im all for happy endings! Just be cautious with the decision because 7 months isnt long at all! Good luck :)

valarie21 · Answer

Awww.

DreamaMama · Answer

Lol thats so sweet!!

realfather · Answer

Im still here, so i do plan to stay.. I mean, shes all crashed out, in my arms.. and im on a freaking pregnancy app. Haha. I do love her. And we have been together for about 7 months now.

valarie21 · Answer

Hope that isn't the case for you two*** sorry auto correct

valarie21 · Answer

Wow!! Not to many men out there like you.  Hats off. I think it's great that you want to be there for her.  You can put Your name on the birth certificate & baby will have your last name. That is if the "father" wants no part in it. But just be weary that later on down the line if the two of you do not work out you could be held responsible for child support or whatever until you get a DNA proving other wise. Hope that isn't that far for you two. Best of luck and congratulations. :)

Babyg92 · Answer

if you are willing to take care of that baby an raise it like its your own and won't regret. then go for it. it takes a real man to take care of his own kids and a kid that is not even yours. i give you a lot of respect because most men would leave but you don't seem like that type of guy. good luck!

shyloveskai · Answer

Its really situational. How long have you been together? Is the biological father in the picture? You could always see where this relationship goes and then adopt the child and update the birth certificate at a later time. With three teens already you have a lot on your plate, you sound like a stand up guy. Just be there for her for now and id see where things go before taking on another child.

DreamaMama · Answer

If you love the woman and plan on marrying her and being a father figure for the baby then of course! Any guy can make a baby but it takes a real man to raise one!