need some advice

[brittanybentleysmom]

Okay ladies i have a question i am 14 weeks pregnant and the fathers not in my life any more bc he was abusive to me and my two yr old boy .he cause me to lose everything my job my house and my car .im scared to death of him and i cant get a restrining order bc they dont have enough evidence to prove anything. The last time i seen him he told me if anyone stood in his way of the baby . he would kill or hurt any one.  Ive done everything i can to keep him away and keep my children safe. Im juat scared hes gonna kidnap the baby or harm us after the baby is born . What im asking is if anyone has been thru same situation or close . How did u stay strong and keep your babies safe , With out driving your self crazy with fear. Thanks to any one in advance.

[breccans_mommy]

Don't tell him when your in labor and don't put him on the birth cirtificate

[TiffB831]

Well, my boyfriend has been in a similar situation.  Not an abusive one or anything, but he feared for the safety of his kids whenever they went with their mother.  He went to court to get full custody of the boys and that's what he based his case on.  The fact that he feared for their safety.  The only tricky part in YOUR situation is being able to prove that he's done something to make you think he would flee or try to harm the children in any way.

Long story short, my boyfriend never stopped the mother from seeing the boys, but she cannot take them out of the state or out of the area.  She is supposed to see them the first Saturday of every month... (as determined by the court) but she has failed to do so anyway.  

So, my advice to you is to find a way to prove why you fear for the safety of the kids being around him. Being abusive to you and fearing for the safety of  your kids are two different topics in court.  << IN COURT!!

Talk to some people, call a legal hotline maybe to get further advice on how you could go about making sure your children stay safe..

Good luck... Sorry you have to deal with this...