needing a little help ladies......

[Jen133]

So, I'm back to work already...... I know is too soon but we need the money.

Anywhoo, my mom is watching Nicole and everything is going great. The problem comes when we go home.  She satrts crying nonstop (is actually everytime we go out).  I feed her and change her diaper and burp her but she still cries.  I carry her and she stops.  I leave her with daddy and she doesn't cry with daddy.  she is very content in her crib but as soon as I go in the room and start talking, she starts to cry and moves her head.  I also see her like trying to bite her hand off.  She puts her little fist in her mouth and starts making these sounds.  Of course I think she's hungry, but when I put the bottle in she just bites on it she's not sucking.  My question is do you guys think she could be teething so soon? She drools a lot with little bubbles and when she puts her fist in her mouth the crying stops but when she takes it out she starts crying again.  

What could this be??

[JoyRenee]

Awww- I think it's a combination of things. First, teething can start and stop at anytime (some babies are BORN with teeth!). My daughters were start teething so very early on but no teeth ever popped through until they were older. The teething seemed to just come and go. So check her gums to see if they're swollen and red. I don't like orajel and most babies don't like it either because they don't like the numb feeling.

The formula can definitely cause stomach upset. I had to change to Prosobee Lipil with Iron (soy based formula) because the cow milk is a lot harsher on baby's tummy. My girls did WONDERFUL on that formula. So you may need to switch formulas until you find one that's just right for her.

And as another person said- that is the fussy time of day. It's kind of her time to "vent" and cry after a long, stimulating day. Much like you want need some alone time after a long, hard day at work.

Finally I think she cries most with you because she is trying to tell you how hard her little day was (LOL). I know I probably sound kooky but she's probably just trying to let her Momma know how much she missed you. Kind of like when you leave for vacation and your dog/cat pees and poos everywhere. Not because they hate you but because they're upset you were gone all day/week.

[JoyRenee]

And I want to say- be careful about any parenting book you read. You don't have to follow them religiously and Happiest Baby on the Block has gotten a lot of bad reviews. It does have some gems of information, so I'm not saying it's an awful book. Just telling you to be careful about anything you read. Not every baby is the same nor will respond the same ways. It's all trial-and-error until you find what works for little Nicole.

[LosingMyMindInGA]

Another thing, if you think it's becuase she's hungry...possibly metabolizing the formula/breastmilk too fast.  Try Enfamil AR lipil.  It has added rice starch so it makes it a bit heavier on the stomach.  

Another question....is she held all day at gramas? It could be she's content until she feels a female presence and then she wants the comfort of being held.  I assume she calms down when you hold her?

On another note.  Some babies are just cranky.  My youngest girl (I have 2 girls 2 boys) was a cranky baby from the get go.  She is STILL a cranky child and will be 6 next month.   Colic or not....some babies just express themselves much louder and longer than others.  

Has anyone else mentioned gas?  Have you tried the mylicon?  Or the Gentle NAturals Tummy soothers?  

I do agree with trying either a soy based formula or the Gentlease type as well.  Just remember that if you try a new one...you have to give it a week or two to really see if it helps.  

[Jen133]

That sounds too cute!! "She's telling her momma how her day was", I didn't think about that.  I am going to tell her pediatrician to see if he can change her milk.  But how can I tell them to change it.  I told her pediatrician that she doesn't go as much and he says that's normal as long as the poopie is soft.  Somedays she will eat and eat and not go until the nightime. He is a very weird pediatrician.

[JoyRenee]

Well it doesn't matter if the formula is making her stool soft or pebbly or even making her constipated. If it is *hurting* her then it needs to be changed. I would find a new pediatrician. The pediatrician I found for my daughters is younger and female, so she stays on top of the most recent medical information out there and respects me as a parent. And being a woman she seems to have more sympathy, though not all male doctors are bad at all!

So definitely switch if you are not comfortable with him. I have found that ratemds.com is a WONDERFUL site to find a pediatrician in your area. And you can rate the ped you currently have so others can steer clear of him.

If you are on WIC, then you will need permission from the doctor to switch. If you're not on WIC you can just buy a can of something else and try it out, gradually. Also, make sure Grandma isn't putting too much formula in the bottles!

Just tell the doctor that you think the formula is causing an upset stomach and you'd like to try a soy-based formula or something else.

Is your daughter's skin blotchy? Red? That could be a sign of milk allergy/sensitivity and then soy formula would definitely help.

[Jen133]

I've tried Mylicon, gripe water and nothing seems to help.  My mom doesn't hold her at all,only to give her her bottle and when she's with her father she doesn't cry. Another thing my mom had to do was put dark curtains in her room because Ms. Nicole will not sleep when she sees daylight.  She's a very complicated little person