not sure about our future.

[krizi]

So for the past week things have been really going downhile between me and my fiance, i can sense that hes pretty upset that im starting school soon and wont be able to stay where he is at, but prior to this we had already agreed that hed be moving to where i am staying now, we have been on totally different pages lately & he says he definitely wants to be in his chilsa life but i dont see how thats going to happen if he doesnt move over here like we discussed, he says he has bad credit & wont be able to get an apartment for us so i said ok what about section 8 ,& he just ignores it because he doesnt want to live off of section 8 but i feel like if its for your child why not? like cant you suck it up let go of your ego for your child & he gets mad, so today we apoke about the same thing & i told him im trying to get an apartmemt in the next couple of months would you want to move in & get a job & take care of the baby when it comes while im at school & ill take care of the baby while your at work? & he says yes, so im like ok i guess well wait and see what happens,anyways if he doesnt atart showing me any progress i feel like im going to defintely have to put him on child support cus im going to need a day care for my baby while im at school if he doesnt come down here & get a job, i just dont see how everything started going downhill because we had alreadys agreed on what we wanted to do & he just wanted to change up the plans, im pretty sure he just wants me to be with him where hes at but if he cant understand that i have a college to attend to where i live & that ive already invested money & loans into my school than idk what to tell him ,im not going to sacrifice this for him especially because of the loans ive already taken out,it just wouldnt make sense to me to drop all of that & waste all that money just because hes changing our plans & wants me to be where hes at, i told him i dont want to put him on child supoort but if i have to i will,& he got mad so im just praying that he will come around to his sense,especially if he really wabts to be apart of his childs life like he says he does, i know things are tough now but its not impossible,im just not feeling that hes motivated or anything i hope im overeacting because i dont want it to be like this, so im just praying that we can start agreeing on things,for the sake of our child. /=

[krizi]

@ maybaby19, thank you soo much for saying that, cus hobestly sometimes i beat myself up about it & feel like im doing the wrong thing, but your right i need to do whats right for me & baby & if that means our engagement & relationship will fall apart then that what it will have to be,even though thats not what i want ,thank you! apreciate it (=

[maybaby19]

Good for you! Keep that mindset because you never know what can happen! If you were to stay where he is and y'all split up anyway then you need a way to support you and baby and school is the best way to ensure that! He will either strong up or he won't, but if you don't stand your ground then he never will....good luck hun and i hope things work out for y'all!