not sure what to do

[ashmiester327]

So my boyfriend wants to get married because of the baby but I don't believe that is right. I am also moving to Tennessee with my mom and sister in August as he tries to enlist in the army but doesn't want to get stationed near us. He argues with me on a lot of things like him being secretive and his physical actions that scare me. My mom said she would be there for me nomatter what I decide but I don't know what todo. Do I marry him or go to Tennessee? Do I leave him in case he ever gets physical with thebaby or while I'm pregnant or stay so the baby has a dad? I am lost and confused....

[ashmiester327]

I told him no but I'm also not moving to Tennessee with my mom due to more events yesterday

[babydue07182013]

If its meant to be everything will eventually work out. I know a lot of people get married because they're pregnant for religious reasons so if that's what it is then do it. If not then dont

[BlueTheGhost]

When I told my partner that I was pregnant his first response (after freaking out of course) was "I guess I'll have to marry you now.." my response was a big NO. It might be the right thing, due to moral standards and social code and what not, but is it right for you? This can't even be considered a legit proposal because of how he presented it to you. A marriage is a partnership, something special. You don't have to marry him, you two could just be a couple and in a few years, if it feels right- then you two could get married.

[rosemotta88]

I got married 3 months after having my first child. Dont do. I thought I was doing what was right at the time but it wasnt a good idea. In the past he has broken my eye socket and made me partially deaf and blind in my right eye and ear cuse of how phical he had gotten. Im not saying dont ever get married but wait for the right person not just someone who wants to marry u cuse ur the mother of his child.

[mrsMartinez91]

Don't do it unless you really want to. Divorce will be nasty specially with child involved plus you are having doubts and his physical actions scare you. No! Run away.

[Kate037]

Don't do it. Plenty of people have babies without getting married and if you have doubts it would not be a good idea. Marriage is something you need to be 100% certain about because its so hard to undo, especially with a child in the mix.

[Breemay]

Do what makes you happy! It might be tough at first but in the long run you'll be happy.

[delyayle]

Wel if he enlists in the army he's going to be gone for a few months no matter what, and even so he can try to go to a Ft. Near you but they will put him where they need him. If you get married you an baby go also. It's your decision if you think you aren't ready for that type of commitment then don't do it. Not only baby but being a military wife. I am one and it takes a special breed of us to do it