not sure

[mabybaby]

first let me say that i apologize if i offend anyone with this. i just found out that i am 6 weeks pregnant. i was not trying i used birth control and the female condom. i told my fiance about the baby and he is ecstatic but i am a bit apprehensive because i don't know if want to keep it or not.  i was just wondering if anyone can give me a little bit if advice.

[brookie12]

I hope you know people are going to be really mean about this...sorry in advance-I have no advice.

[lheid]

why are you not so sure... is it money... or job... or anything like that? or are you just not sure of yourself? i am not trying to be mean or anything... but i am just curious as to why?

[mabybaby]

i guess it is that im not sure about myself at the time being.  

[brookie12]

You'll be fine.

[loismwallace]

It's okay if your not ready to be a mother. Atleast you have the guts to admit it. That is the first step. As you probably already know, no one here wants to hear about abortion, but there are many wonderful adoption agencies if you choose not to keep the baby. And who knows. By the time you see that precious lil' baby you may have a change of heart. I know you're in a tuff spot, but you really have to do what's best for you AND the baby. Also think about this...If your bf is someone you plan on spending a lot of time with him it may devistate him if you don't keep his child. Think about it, hard...Wish you lots of luck.

[lheid]

i agree with lois completely!! whatever you decide... good luck to you

[depressed748]

Whatever one said it the truth. Plenty of women would love to be in your shoes, so if you are not sure adoption will be the best way to go.

[Jacytee]

Pray on it...

I wish you the best of luck!  

[jdlk]

You will be fine!!  Wait and see the first u/s.... it could totally change your mind.

[leighanne143]

i don't think anyone is ever ready especially since you are still young but maybe you and your fiance should talk about it because it sound slike he is ready and wants this to work so maybe you 2 can talk about the pros and cons and you will probably find the the pros out weigh the cons.

I would probably have felt the same way as you 5 years ago when i was 20  but after i had a Miscarriage, my perception is a lot different and i would never give up a baby now.

Good luck and i hope whatever chose you make that you are sure about.

[mabybaby]

thanks for the advice

[mabybaby]

thanks for the advice

[mabybaby]

thanks for the advice

[mabybaby]

thanks for the advice

[StressHead]

I think you should keep it. I was always indifferent to abortions thinking it was the womens choice and that circumstances where never straight forward. I have only been trying for two months and already I am hoping that I'm not going to have problems and the one thought that comes into my head is that I am glad I was never in that position. It's hard enough without having all these fears and knowing you once had the chance and gave it up!! Something to think about.......

[miko_latte]

Well at least you were being responsible.  Every choice you make is on you, and I know you said you're not sure about yourself but I think regardless you'll make a great mom.   You probably need to hear some good words and just think it over, YOU CAN DO IT!!!   Like one of the ladies said, there are sooo many women who would love to be in your shoes...it's such a blessing.  Don't doubt yourself.  It's good that your fiancee is happy about the situation, see? Talk it out with him, regardless you guys are both eventually gonna get married and kids are gonna come along the way. Even though you were being responsible (birth control and condom) it happend for a reason right? =D

[loismwallace]

My sister had an abortion when she was 18. It was a bad marriage and she felt at the time it was the right thing to do. She didn't have anyone to go to so she was alone on this decision. Now, at the age of 42, she regrets the choice she made. Think hard about it....

[mabybaby]

i'm not getting an abortion. my fiance and i both agreed about that it's just that i'm not ready for being a parent

[depressed748]

That is good to hear....babies never come at the right time for us humans ,but it is the right for God. Just remember he will never put more on you than you can bear. Being a parent comes natural and you will learn different things as time goes. Good luck and God bless

[shawnahass]

i was 19 when i got pregnant and i wasnt sure about being a parent but abortion never crossed my mind...at the time of my pregnancy me and my now ex husband were already thinking about divorce but yet i still wanted my daughter dont worry i was horrible with kids,never liked them but as soon as she came into my world all that changed its different when their your own im sure youll be a great parent good luck on the pregnancy and keep us posted believe me when you feel a movement for the first time youll break in to tears its sooo joyfull!!!!!

[KellyA74]

you sound like a very mature young lady...to admit that you may not be ready for a baby but are not willing to terminate the pregnancy....It shows a great deal of maturity......As others mentioned, adoption is a beautiful thing....On the other hand, I'm 34 and am trying to conceive and am not positive that I'm ready to be a mom....I KNOW that I am, but there are always uncertainties and I'm not sure that anyone is ever 100% sure.....once you see an ultrasound you may totally change your mind!  Best of luck to you.

[loismwallace]

I am soooooo thrilled you have decided to see this through. You will see....It will all work out. Congratz to you and you fiance`

[miko_latte]

That's good, Congrats to the 3 of you =D Like I said before, you'll make a great mom!!

[mabybaby]

i just wnated to thank you guys for the advice.