advice ?

[xbeccaxnicolex]

I've been really stressed and depressed since I've been home with my little man (he's a week and 2 days old). Both my husband and his aunt (pretty much the only woman I'm around at all) think I need to get on antidepressants. It makes me feel like a bad mom. On top of things, I feel like my husband is doing things he shouldn't be (like he did before we got married)  because he was on the internet all night the other night and deleted the web history for just that day. We had a past problem with him talking to girl on meetme and such so now I'm more worried.  I just don't know what to do.

[xbeccaxnicolex]

Thank you so much. Its good to have someone to talk to.

[Lindsmit]

You got to remember when your depressed your always going to assume the worst. When your feeling better you may find out it was nothing and you were over reacting. Thats truely what i hope. Good luck at doctors and message me if you need. Just hang in there.

[xbeccaxnicolex]

Thank you hun. I try not to stress but it really bothered me when I woke up at 3 in the morning and he was sitting on the other side of the room on the laptop instead of in bed with me and his son. Especially when he's the one saying I'm so depressed. I plan on mentiong it to the doctor next Monday but I have to make it until then. I just want what's best for my lil Guy but it still makes me feel weak. And just the thought of talking to someone about it makes me cry.

[Lindsmit]

Im really sorry if hes messing around and it does nesd to be delt with.  But i think you should worrie about you and baby for the time being. If you are depressed you are NOT a bad mom. You have no control over it. You are an amazing mom if you go to your doctor and get the help you need before it gets worse. My opinion is dont worrie about his childish ways until you are back in a healthy mind set. Once your healthy it will be easier to deal with his out burst. You and baby are most important right now. Dont stress your self out  by deliberatly finding things to accuse him of. It can be delt with later :)

[xbeccaxnicolex]

Well I asked him about it and he started getting mad, telling me not to start with him and that he didn't do anything. When I asked him why he deleted the history and he said he didn't do it... so I guess we have a computer ghost since only me and him use our laptop

[blessedmomoftwo]

Hi sis
I understand completely how you feel. I went threw a stage like that after I had my first child and my husband was not being the man I needed him to be and doing his own thing. I want to encourage you to keep your head up and remain strong for you baby but most important you should pray over you're household and ask God to give you guidance and strength to deal with. The baby and your husband childish ways. Its not easy being a 1st time mom and everyone needs extra help now and then so if you have any other family members or friends that will be a good to help u out and talk to to relieve some stress. It will get better trust me you are not alone.

[xbeccaxnicolex]

I'm honestly scared to talk to him bc any time we've talked about that kind of thing we end up fighting or him walking out and me crying myself to sleep just for him to come back in and act like nothing is wrong.
I've been hoping all this sadness would pass but I haven't went a single day without crying for no reason or not being able to motivate myself to get out of bed. I never thought it'd be this hard

[KDQ]

Talk to your hubby. Let him know how ypu feel and try to be as open as possible with him. You might neef to talk to your doctor about ppd. Take it one day at a time and don't be ashamed you are feeling down. It is completly normal and will eventually pass.