what to do? ( not really pregnancy related)

[TeenMama2013]

Okay so I'm 17 and I'm 26+3.. Me and the father arent together haven't been since about 4-5 months. I've been talking to my best guy friend and he would like a relationship. I like him and want to but I don't know if I will get judged or its not a good idea while pregnant..? He wants to eventually marry me and take my son as his. He also has a daughter and is 6 years older then me. so I don't know if I should be with him or not. I want to but I'm scared my mom won't even let me. So any advice would be great! Or if you've been in a similar situation. Thanks.

[Ariel_21]

I'm due nov. 19 with my lil man congrats to you too :)

[TeenMama2013]

I don't want him just to be a father figure. I know I can be a single mom. I have my mom and family for a lot of support. But I raised my friends baby from week 1 til she was 2 because parents were in jail then they decided to put her up for adoption.. But I took care of her like I was her mom. And I did it completely alone. So I know I can raise my son alone I just don't really want to.. I want someone there for support for me.

[Sarahdawn1990]

Im due Oct 31st with baby girl number 2 :)

[JuliaAnn02]

As they said, follow your heart..just don't rush in to things and don't make your decision that u wanna be with him just because you want a father figure in your sons life. It may be scary thinking about being a single mother but its definitely doable and I'm sure your family will be helping you as much as they can! .....test the waters a little bit before you make any huge commitments with the guy. Good luck :)

[TeenMama2013]

That helps me a lot. Lol makes me feel not so bad wanting someone else as my sons father. But my ex isn't no where close to being a dad. so this new is totally a good dad to his daughter he has custody of her and I see him with her and makes me really want him for my son. Cause so far my son won't even have his dad around at all. His dad doesn't even wanna meet him and this new guy wants to be there in the hospital holding my hand when I push my son out! :) also congrats. When are you due? I'm due Oct 18th with my son

[Sarahdawn1990]

Im in a somewhat similar situation. I dated this guy for 3 1/2 years all through high school then we split up (not on bad terms) because i moved so far away. I then met the ex as we will call him. We got together and had a little girl and shortly after we broke up and he has nothing to do with my daughter, we don't even speak (by his choice). Not a month later, the first guy and i got back together. He loves my little girl like his own and refuses to believe she is anything but his. We are also now expecting our second baby girl in Oct and we are happier than ever. We have been back together 2 years now. So i say follow your heart, just be smart about it and don't get yourself in a bad situation. Sometimes the crazy chances we take, turn out to be the best decisions we ever made. Good luck girl.

[Ariel_21]

Me the father of my child not together but we are on ok terms. But there's this guy I have known since 2011 on and off we have talked but never dated. This time we are a lil serious. He's like my support. He love seeing pic of my big belly and he loved the video I sent to him of the baby movements he don't get weirded out that I'm pregnant he has two girls. And just a few years older then me I'm 21 but I just love that I have someone there we taking things slow and just yesterday he told me he wish this was his son it made me feel good but all I could tell him was he can be there for him like it is his. He makes me feel good. But ik once my baby's dad find out yea he's gonna flip. But just take it slow I say

[TeenMama2013]

thanks! Yeah definitely I told him slow. I know not many do! I didn't think I'd ever have someone care for me since my ex. With being pregnant and then when I have my son.. Not many guys will be like I wanna be with you and I wanna be here for your son. :)

[shawnastone]

I say take it very slow with him. If he really wants to be with you then he'll wait, no need to rush anything. Have him as your support. It's always nice to have someone who is willing to step up and be the father figure to your baby, not to many men will do that. :)