how do you deal with a miscarriage?

[trinibabe69]

I can stop thinking about it and even though I try I end up crying. .. I try not to do it in front of my family because I don't want them to see me like this but it *****.. I think the hubby is trying to do the same and keeping busy with work..

The hubby wants to start trying again but im afarid that it might happen againn... how do u get over that fear?

[trinibabe69]

My mom said the xsame thing... I need to pray and get my body back to stregth to hold this baby.. we r going to start trying again in feburary..

[veronicamommysoon]

Sorry February

[veronicamommysoon]

I was 17 weeks and 5 days and friday we had our babies funeral is not easy I blame God and I cry all day long. Now I'm going to church and trying to get emotional and physical ready to be able to try again in April.  

[Danbri]

I had 3 miscarriages before my first child.  I struggled really bad after my second one as I was 12 wks along when it happened.  It can be so hard and honestly depressing.  I really do understand.  Just know that every day will get a little bit easier.  Just wait until you feel ready to try again (Drs recommend 3 mos).  When it happens I promise it'll be worth the wait:) Keep your chin up, it'll all be okay!

[Babycoco2010]

Trust me I no what you mean I had 3 mc and I couldn't let it go still with me now and when I lost them I cried for months after you never get over it to behonist you just have to learn to live with it and maybe do something to remember and be there for each other it will make you stronger and we are now 32 weeks and I am still nervous and we take it day bye day is all we can do..don't hold it in talk to your other half  cry do what you need to do xx I am so sorry for your loss

[daangelp6]

I'm sorry that you had to go through that. I've had 2 miscarriges back to back and its not easy... Like other posts say u don't get over it but u have to find faith that everything will work out I'm 27+2 now and everything seems to be going ok till now so maybe the only way to get over that fear to to face it head on... Try again and whenever u feel the need to cry do so its not good to hold things in (they eat u up inside slowly) ... U have a Hubby to turn to rememeber its harder on us women but men ho through the same hurt.... Good luck to u and I hope everything goes good for u and ur family

[tarrah87]

good luck!

[trinibabe69]

Thanks hun... ill visit the fourm ...

[tarrah87]

you don't get over it you just have to have faith and believe that it will be ok and everything happens for a reason. my first pregnancy miscarriage at 8 weeks, i was devastated and waited at least 6 months to try again, second time was blessed with twin boys who suffered ttts and i had an incompatent cervix, i had them at 21 1/2 weeks, and third my baby girl who is 3 years old, healthy as an ox!. forth pregnancy i had a miscarriage at 6 weeks, fifth pregnancy was ectopic, sixth pregnancy was missed miscarriage and had d&c at 7 weeks, this pregnancy ive had my fair share of complications but im almost 16 weeks baby is growing great and all is good. just gotta have faith, we all have a our troubles and believe me it never gets any easier and its something you will always remember but let your body heal and when the time is right it will happen. good luck and remember FAITH!

[KTowne]

I'm so sorry you went through that, though I've never had a miscarriage, I can imagine you don't really get over that fear. Every pregnant woman gets that fear, and it's 20x worse for someone who's been through a loss. I would wait until you're fully ready to try again, not your husband, because it's you that physically had to go through the loss. I know a lot of the time women miscarry because of chromosome defects, which is nothing you could've prevented, and will not cause a problem in the future. There's also a miscarriages community (http://www.medhelp.org/forums/Miscarriages/show/283) that might help you out a little better, good luck to you hun!