Name???

[cch1029]

My and bd had agreed on a name a while ago for our little boy, Brandon Andrew. Brandon (after his brother that passed away) and Andrew (after my brother passed away). Now I'm sort of not feeling it, even though I felt so strongly about it before. Now I'm in love with the name Bryce. It goes good with either of the names Brandon or Andrew as the middle name I'm still looking for other possible middle names for the name Bryce. I love it because it different and I get signs like this should be his name lol. Even though I haven't exactly informed bd of the name change yet (ooops).

Also Last Name
I have a son already that has my last name. Me and my bd aren't together but we have been good friends since elementary school. I wish we were together, but he doesn't know what he wants he's so wishy washy. A couple months ago he put me in the friends zone(or I'm considered like family because I'm carrying his child) because he was talking to someone else. Now he's been sorta clingy to me don't know what thats about lol. He's excited about the baby coming. He's a nice guy he just doesn't know what he wants. With that being said I want the baby to have my last name too. How do I go about telling him that? I don't wanna seem like I'm being mean or anything.

[cch1029]

Thanks...he does plan on being around and looking forward to buy the baby things. I just think that since we are in no type of relationship except being good friends that the baby should have my last name just like my other son does. If he had some type of commitment or planned on marrying me then the baby would have his last name. That is my theory, but we get along great.

[steph_ut]

Out of respect for my father, my husband suggested we give our kids my last name (which I kept when we got married). I do see it cause some people to pause from time to time since they expect Daddy and daughter to have the same last name, but no real problems. It probably helps that she is a perfect mix of the 2 of us, so no one doubts either her paternity or maternity. On top of that, if he's not likely to be around to raise the child as part of a joint household, I see no reason to give your son his last name.

[cch1029]

Thanks guys that is really helpful...I was worried about both of my kids having different last names if it was going to be a problem when they grow up. If bd didn't have a problem with commitment then I would use his last name lol. But I think I will just tell him how I feel. It's been heavy on my mind so I had to ask. Thanks ladies.

[3rd_time_mummy]

I would just be honest about ur feelings wanting bub to have ur last name. i have 2 kids and one on the way. My first was to my abusive ex so she has my last name. when i got with my partner and had my second child we were engaged and i explained i really wanted both kids to have the same last name. i grew up having a different last name to my siblings and i hated it. he wasn't happy at first and kept saying no but after a while i think he saw how important it was for me. we r now having our third bub and we didn't even need to talk about it... bub is having my last name so its all the same. once we get married we will change ALL the kids names to his. as for the name bryce is a nice name my friend just named her bub that. just talk to the father of bub and the sooner the better so he can get use to the idea. im not saying it will be easy it wasn't for me at first but with time my partner agreed and is happy with our decision :)

[breanna_d]

Tell him it would be nice if the siblings shared s last name. But to be honest, I think tradition states that his last name be used. It's your choice tho do dont feel pressured to do something your not for. Plus its easy.to apply to change a name if your relationship status changes :-)