Need some advice... no rude comments please

[Smashleyk]

I'm currently 16 weeks and 4 days. The father of my child and I are trying to be friends for the sake of our child and for the past month or so he's been more concerned about our baby. I've told my family and started trying to get ready to be a mom. He keeps avoiding meeting my family and yelled at me today abiut how I keep asking him to please tell his family. I told him I feel like it's past time to tell them and the longer he waits the worse things are going to be from them. I don't know whether to just walk away or continue trying. He refuses to go to appointments unless they are late in the afternoon. I'm at work at those points so I make appointments around my work schedule. My family is involved and trying to help. Is it too much to ask for him to involve his family? To ask him to be more understanding that I have a life outside of him? He's excited abd always asking questions along with researching. I feel like I'm trying too hard to have him be fully involved. Am I causing uncalled for drama?

[brittanyl31215]

Wow that is very wrong of him how could you deny your child I just dont get it...

[ericatoday]

With my first my ex didn't want to tell his mom. And I got sick of it. After he cheated on me and left me I hady first ultrasound and I sent his mom a text with a photo that said "your grandchild" within 15 minutes he called me screaming at me. I didn't care. But his mom never wrote me back. He apparently told her I was some crazy ex pretending to be pregnant hahah

[brittanyl31215]

I dont want to be blamed for her not knowing ive been wanting to tell her since I found out hes holding back

[brittanyl31215]

Same here mine is acting the same way eveyone knows but his mom and it drives me crazy that he hasnt told her I want him to just man up already...

[BrittanyBear00]

Some guys don't care to go to the appts. Mine only wanted to be at the ultrasounds lol and he hates getting up early so i tried scheduling around 11 or so. most men don't actually get involved until baby is born and he's holding him or her. Try not to stress.

[Momma2be2013]

You're in a challenging position and I'm sorry things aren't easier for you at this time. You have to do what's best for you and your little one. You can try taking a step back from him, share information but try not to push anything. Such at...my appt is at 9:15am. Let him decide what's important instead of trying to tell him how important it is to be there. Let him step up and show you if you are important to him or not, instead of you chasing him. It's hard not to feel like your chasing him. I know you want him to be there and involved, but you are also right that you don't want to feel like he's only being involved to please you and not because it's what he feels is right.
         If you can step back just a little, you'll know if he wants to be involved or not. He needs to understand that your families are connected now and he does need to be honest with his family, but that he will have to figure out on his own and he may not be ready for that.
         Hang in there and I am so glad you have your family's support in the midst of all of this.
Good luck!

[Smashleyk]

I'm just starting towonder f he really is excited or if he's just acting so I'll be less emotional.

[panduhhbaby]

I don't think you're asking for too much. It's only natural that you'd be xpect for him to tell his family. But don't force it . Sooner or later they will find out and if they get upset it's on his part not yours. If he is being supportive and is excited it shouldn't bother you so much that he doesn't go to the appointments with you. Just try to convince him to go to the more important appointments. But he should definitely meet your family. You guys are going to be a little family of your own and it's best if he knows your family.