WHY???

[Ungers_Girl]

My husband and I decided to start trying to have a baby.  Lately, my stomach has been hurting, I've thrown up a few tims and I constantly feel sick.  I guess my mind is playing tricks on me, because we really do want to have a baby.  

I can't help to feel sad when i started spotting today.  I have symptoms of starting my period.  My last 2 periods were on July 1st and August 18th. I should be starting soon, but when I started spotting today, I couldn't help but to feel sad.   I want to be a mommy, I know I can give all the love in the world to a child.  It hurts to feel that for some reason I dont get to be a mommy, when people who don't want to be mommy's get to be one.  How can i feel better about not being blessed with a child of my own?  

Please help me, i feel lost...  

[Whitneylauren]

I can remember waiting in agony watching my pregnancy tests each month and praying that I would get the answer I wanted. It is hard to get negative results especially when you are told your whole life that getting pregnant is so easy. It takes the average couple six months to a year to conceive, and it took my husband and I exactly six months.
If you are especially type A (like me) you can buy clear blue sticks that tell you 24- 36 hours before you will ovulate. Basically a woman ovulates anywhere from 12- 16 days after the first day of her last period. From what I have read, having sex every other day in that time period is the best way to conceive. Get a towel and afterwards slightly lift your pelvis for 20 minutes before you move. This advice comes from lots of research that I did while we were trying for our second, and I am happy to report we are 13 weeks along now!

Good luck- I know it is hard, but totally worth it!!!

[mami1323]

I was going to ask how long you were trying.  It took me a year and a half to conceive.  I thought the same as you but I now have a 9 1/2 month old son.  It does happen, it just takes time for some people.

[LauraB78]

How long have you been ttc? It typically takes a normal healthy couple 6 months to a year.. Hang in there..