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I have been losing so much sleep. I am so sleep deprived. My mom does a lot of overtime and i am left to watch my baby sister who is almost 9 months. She has been getting heavier to carry and is a pain in the butt altho i love her very much. Sometimes when my mom is completely tired, which i understand.. she goes to bed real early and when my sister is fussy she gives me her to watch til midnight. I also feel like my sex life is gone with my man because i dont even have the strength to perform felacio and lord knows men love when you go down on them and i try to atleast 3 times a week.. and we have sex on the regular but im mostly lazy and he puts in the work which i feel bad about he dosent mind. but lately i have just been so drained i dont know how else to deal with this and its overwhelming. At this point i am so ready to pop out my baby and i have 10 weeks to go but idk if i may faint or some crazy thing might happen while im in labor because of being so tired and stressed out.. i guess my question here is how do you ladies deal with being a sitter or full time mom with fussy babies? I literally cant find time for myself anymore.. let alone get to even do my hair and makeup these days its driving me insaneeee !!! Helpppp

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Yeah but ehh im asian so were accustomed to riding out through thick and thin and believe me i have left a few times and started a life for myself and always wound up back in mamas arms.. i guess im just complaining over nothing and should count my blessings.. but thankyou you do have a point ! :-)

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Your mom is a grown woman as well , she is responsible for her actions and choices. You aren't , walking on egg shells shouldn't be what you have to do because she sounds as if she may need some therapy. No dealt with a lot of things similar with my mother and I left. I moved out with my son because of how unhealthy everything was for us to live there. Emotionally. You now have a child in the way have to think of what is best for you and your little family now.

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I really just hope i am able to give birth and dont faint or die through it all..

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Oh and yeah he has a job in the stocking room waiting for him to work at in my mothers company but we cant even find a reliable enough ride cause its a second shift.. uhg and by the end of the week my moms switching to weekend shifts only so maybe she can provide him the transportation.. its hard enough the place is far out as is.. uhg lifeeeee !!!!

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Yeah but my moms mostly selfish and cares about her feelings before considering mines and when we argue bout it and see where shes wrong she'll cry about it so i let her be most of the time and it dosent help that shes going through a long distance relationship with the babys father who lives in a dif country who she is in the middle of sponsoring to come live with us.. she cut herself last week over an argument with him so i have to remember to be gentle with her feelings and stuff.. sometimes i feel like im doing more for everyone in the house before thinking about ME for once.. i also have two other sibling that are in elementary in middle school.. (sighs) i guess i just needed someone to give me support and someone tovent to..

[Tricia0818]

I totally understand that lol it's tiring but a blessing. As long as you can communicate with her that you need some sleep too without her getting upset that's a plus. Is your boyfriend working? Maybe that would be a huge help to your mom as far as money and supporting you guys.

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Yeah my mom is getting old and i just feel bad because i deserve to be the one working and providing now i feel for her so much cause when it comes to money she def provides so i learn to look at the brighter side of things tho i may complain alot.. i just really look at it like shes always had my back and me living under her with my boyfriend is already good enough for me and he also helps me with watching her. Im so glad my baby sis is learning to be more independent like when shes in her walker. Idk what it is maybe im just too easy to use.. but yeah i know my mom wouldnt feel offended if i voice that im tired and stuff.. she'll back off but at the end of the day i have to remind myself that it will be okay and i get the luxury of staying home with my sis ya know? Thanks tho for feeling me on this and 3 kids wow i couldnt do it idk how you do it girl lol id be out of breath every day

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Personally even though your mom is tired your sister is her responsibility. So when she isn't working she should be taking care of her, it's nice to help a every so often when it's needed but it seems to me she may be taking advantage of you a bit. What happens when you are over exhausted and need someone to help you? Is she going to stay up and help you with your baby or tell you she is tired? I don't know your relationship or anything else than from what you mentioned up top and I'm not at all saying she is a bad person. Please don't think that I'm trying to be rude either. I have three kids and the only person who helps me with them is my husband.