scared :(

[roxanalovexo]

I'm 35 weeks pregnant with a baby boy, first time mom as well. My husband is in the military and I just got news he will be going on his 2nd deployment shortly after the birth of our son. I'm upset since when we got married we only spent 3 weeks together and he deployed for 6 months, now it just seems like the time we are supposed to be together and ejoying our son we won't be able to. The first time he left I went back to be with my family so I wouldnt feel lonely, but this time we have an apartment, our cars, 2 dogs, bills and finances, and I was also hoping to return to school after giving birth. I'm scared because idk how to deal with all these things happening at once. I'm scared I won't know what to do and that I'll mess up, especially with our new baby. We have talked about my in laws coming to stay with us for a while til he gets back from deployment, but I feel like if we do that I won't really have as much privacy in my own home. What should I do? Should I hold off on school and wait til he gets back? I don't just wanna stay home and not do anything cuz I feel like I will just get depressed he won't be home, if I do go back to school while he's gone it gives me that time to knock a few classes off and helps me stay focused. Ugh. I'm so lost! :/

[roxanalovexo]

Thanks! Yeah, it's a difficult life style but we know we have to make sacrifices. :)

[roxanalovexo]

The only persons I have from my side of the family is my mom and siblings, but she works and my 2 of my siblings are still in elementary school and one in middle school so that's not really an option. I'm starting to think my in laws coming here or at least my mother in law would be the best thing right now.

[Rosemarie1]

My husband and I are both in the military.  We've been married for almost two years. We are expecting a baby in April and although he should have 10 days paternity leave, idk if he's going to be there bc of an upcoming deployment.  Luckily my parents live in the next state over, so I have them to lean on. I am taking some college now, but will take online courses after the baby. I feel your pain as a military wife. Just know that it's not your husband's fault for not being there.  The military is rough, but it als helps pay the bills. Start looking at schools now and you will be able to take them online and maybe have the in laws over for a couple of weeks for the extra help, then send them on their way. Don't let anything stress you out. Good luck!

[LoveCake98]

Re: school, I would hold off on that.  You can't go to class on 2 hours of sleep and expect to get anything out of it.  Wait until baby is sleeping through the night and you have your new household routine figured out.  I did  laundry daily with my first child.

[LoveCake98]

I think family staying with you would really help.  Keep it short though.  Couldn't someone from your side come and then stay alone.  Then after a short time maybe someone from his side?   It would just help so that you can get out of the house or even just catch a few hours sleep.  A tag team approach is best in the first few weeks.  Also everyone who visits should bring food or help in some way.  Stock your freezer for the alone time so you don't have to cook too.