Im 5 month pregnant & under so mush stress, but am I in the wrong here??

[summalove]

It feels like when I have an awnser to the millions of pregnant issues that me and my boyfriend r having, another question hits us, but he hasnt given me an awnser on weither he wants to raise our first unborn son togthere or seperate. He says i oviouslly want to be there for u nd my son but that he cant just up nd leave his dad he lives with in arizona who is disabled nd he has me over here living in california whos 5 month pregnant nd ive been doingeverything gor the bby alone, we tried compromising nd i said fine ill go out too arizona nd see if i can see us raising our baby there so i put my job on hold nd came out here to see if i feel comfortable and i hate it his dad is always smoking ciggaretts in my face so dissrrspectful nd i eat unhealthy here i mean i can go on nd on but am I in the wrong for trying to get him out to cali nd live with me nd family reither then staying somewhere thats uncomfortable for me nd the baby or should he stay nd take care of his dad in arizona. So pretty mush he has to choose be here for the baby or his dad. Wat do u guys think??

[ciera1350]

I can see how it's a frustrating situation because nobody wants to leave behind their disabled parent but then not be there for their child. I would try and get him to compromise more with his father and say ya know look dad I want to stay here in az and help but I need my money to support my own family, so if you want me here than I can't continue giving you so much but I will be here to help. That's not unreasonable at all to ask of you baby's father. But asking him to pick up and leave to another state I'm that situation.? Well if I were him I might be upset by that especially if something bad were to happen. Since you guys aren't married if recommend applying for food stamps and cash assistance to help you along the way for now. I live here in Phoenix az and the des benefits are excellent here in my opinion they really help. Good luck Hun.

[shell132]

I understand ur situation but u also gotta look at it that his father being disabled he needs care depending on his disability i mean no one is in the wrong but u should really try to make a compromise with him to try and have things work out for both of u if at all possible

[summalove]

I mean this is my third time being out here im still herr woth him ive stayed here for 3 weeks nd everything id just so bad here his dad takes away 90% of his paycheck nd ya we would be living on our own here but we would be neigjbors with his dad and with that his dad is still going to be disdrespectful still guna take our money way. I told my bf if he came out to cali nd me nd him raised our bby out there nd if something happened to ur dad i dont want him saying its my fault or watever because the ultimate decision is going to be his. In az we wouldnt be financialy stable nd wouldnt have a car...

[muhshe]

Could you compromise and move to az but get your own place with your bf? Then you both give a little. I dont think your request is unreasonible but if he leaves his dad then dad dies or something he could just end up resenting you..