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single moms? whats your story?
NO JUDGING... Ok so I'm 18, 19 August 5. My bd, is 26.. well my babysfather is married... Yessss I know, I slept with a married man but it's complicated. They We're living together while we We're dating,and we planned a baby.. he thought he couldn't have kids thou because they had been trying.. the reason I dated him is because he told me they We're going thru divorce. They didn't sleep in the same room or anything, I fell in love.. we saw eachother everyday, took trips on the weekends and everything. It was like she didn't even exist.. well I got pregnant and two days later he asked me if I could get rid of it and we'll try again when his divorce is final.. I said no, so he said get a divorce or I'm leaving.. well that ended and I made a completely fool of myself. And then he was in and out of my life.. well now that I'm 8 months pregnant, he is legally separated, they no longer live together but now he's confused as to who he wants to be with...
Im 16 almost 17years old im almost 12 weeks pregnant im on my way to raising my baby on my own my bf and me were together for a year and almost 9 months he had told me when he found I was pregnant we were going to be a family and he was gonna work to support for me and the baby but when his parents and family going out he backed out on all his promises and plans and said he didn't want anything to do with the baby that he now only wants to pay child support it really hurt me because he wanted an abortion and so did one of his stupid cousins that had actually set up an abortion appointment for me and at end everyone got mad at me for not doingit because its his ruin the bd "image" -_- so now I have to officially go talk with his parents tomorrow morning to figure out a plan I guess and I don't even know if the idiot of the sperm doner is going to be there
Thanks ladies it just really hard.. and Pam, I don't mean to be rude but hearing your perfect love affair made me wanna die... like seriously, congrats thou
Wow bee i honor you to the highest!!! I went thru a similiar thing! I am in alabama and my support system is in arkansas. My babys father also became not only verbally abusive but physical towards the end. I have worked my entire pregnancy even walked miles to work everyday just so i could be self reliant! In the last days he was here i caught him smoking crack in my bathroom one day when i got off a 12hr shift and i told him i could either get him help or he could leave.. and he chose the easy way out, left with his coke ***** ex without even a word. left me completley alone but i have not shed a tear after tht day i choose to live each day for my baby and no one else bc i do not have the time to waste anymore
Don't settle for less than your beautiful baby &you both deserve. I know it's easier said than done but you don't want that kind of example for your little one anyway ,someone who doesn't know what they want. He should feel lucky to have a baby on the way ¬ want to cause any hurt or pain towards the woman who's carrying his baby. Hope it gets better
I agree with Jada. Never sacrifice your standards. Your baby needs only the best men in its life! Even if the only men in their life are your brothers or father. I'm 20 yrs old, 8 months pregnant, and single. I also live on my own bc I'm a junior in college (graduating early August, woo!). It's hard being away from my support system (family) and doing this on my own, but it's the sacrifice I'm making for my baby's sake. The baby's father and I had been dating for only 2 months when I find out I was pregnant. He was super positive and happy at first, but then he became emotionally abusive. He threatened to leave me all the time, hollered at me, and called me a hypocritical b**** because I wanted to date him a little longer before deciding on marriage. It was like the unexpected pregnancy caused him to snap. I realized neither the baby or I needed someone that emotionally unstable in our lives. If he mentally snapped like that bc of an unexpected pregnancy, I can't imagine what would happen if something actually bad happened. it helps me to remember that I'm single, but I'm single by choice. My little girl deserves nothing but the best. Fathers included
You have all the love and support you need for your baby on your own girl. You just have to shine and realize your capabilities. Although her situation is fortunate your man is not so great to even tell u to make tht decision to begin with. It shows his immature nature to the situation. He might have been a sperm provider doesnt mean hes father material.
Really i dont think age matters... like i said im 21 my man 35 weve been together 5years so yes being with an older man could turn into something beautiful! And also you can learn a lot if you got a good man with a brain and knows how to use it! Right now you need to worry about you and your baby if he wants to be a part of a beautiful family he will realise it eventually and it maybe too late or it may not.
Shes asking for single moms help?! Im sure yall with your supporting significant others rnt making her feel better about her situation.. i mean im happy for yall but things can change in the blink of an eye. Dont be so dependant on it
Turned 19 in April, met a guy who is 10 years older and although I wanted just to mess around and be friends with benefits, he ended up wanting more and I liked the idea of being with him. Never thought that I would end up pregnant with his child though. But now we are together and we have become so much closer and our relationship has grown into something solid. I was never one for marriage and settling down but now that I have him in my life and a beautiful baby girl on the way it couldn't feel more right. When I first told him I was pregnant he assured me that he would be there for me regardless of my decision and I didn't even think twice about it telling my parents wasn't scary for me at all because I knew in my heart that it was right. Everything happens for a reason and you've gotta take every card your dealt, good or bad, and make the most of it! Best of luck to you and your baby
Pam and Holly
Pam and Holly
honey i know it hard facing this alone. Im 21 yrs old and 39wks pregnant and my bd left me for his first baby momma 2months ago while i was at work, moved 4hrs away. But i decided i am not going to beg anyone to be in my childs life. My child deserves someone who wants too be there no matter what. Until then they dont need someone bouncing in and out best thing to do is provide stability. Bc its no longer about YOUR feelings its about our childrens. Its not fair but they deserve someone who will love them as much as we do, and some day someone will come along tht will be just as good to them as they are YOU. Your still young and although ur already caught up in the situation, you DO deserve better. Keep your head high and your standards higher. Xo
I am 17, 18 on july 25. I graduated highschool early and was in college engaged to my babys father. We got engaged before i got pregnant but turns out he though we would never have kids and told me to abort or hes out. Welp im 16 weeks pregnant now without him. Im not single though, my boyfriend has been amazing to me and has helped me so much through this pregnancy so far even talks to the baby through my tummy
Aw man thats hard to go thru... im not a single mom but im 21 my man 35 he has 2 teenage girls with his baby momma.. wjo was years ago... but she still finds her way into our life... we have a 2 year old son and expecting our second child... im here if you wanna talk
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