so stressed!! please help!!

[firsttimemommy21]

Okay so my parents have bein married for 40 years and there getting a divorce. Right now I live next door to my mom and shes taking the divorce really hard and has several nerve problems (she never leaves her house) and she really doesnt have any friends. My sister and brothers are crackheads andjust use and abuse her but they stay with her sometimes and the cops come and its just not a good situation (my brother stole 150 dollars from us last night) so my dad found us a house and is gonna help us buy it but I feel horrible leaving my mom I feel like I need to take care of her. Advice please! !

[firsttimemommy21]

Thanks girl!!

[KTowne]

Good luck hun, and congratulations on your new house and baby!

[firsttimemommy21]

Thanks for the advice!! Helped a lot!!!

[KTowne]

My mom and dad were going through a divorce and my mom actually tried killing herself when I was about 18, a few months later I gave birth to my son and we were moving out and I was leaving her there alone, and I felt absolutely horrible. My sisters were both already moved out, my dad was gone, and I thought I was the worst daughter in the world, but when it came down to it I knew I was a mom and my main priority was to make sure my husband and son were in the best environment they could be, your child is more important than anything in this world (unfortunately that includes your mother), so make sure you're focusing on yourself and that baby right now, that's most important!

[firsttimemommy21]

I really hope so! My husband is done with the drama I just feel like a horrible person for leaving her by herself

[KTowne]

I know it's probably a hard situation you're in, but you can't live with your mom and take care of her forever. You are starting your own family and you will really want your own house, you're going to be under enough stress dealing with a newborn baby, you don't need more added onto that. You can still take care of your mom from your own house, and visit and watch out for her, but you need to focus on yourself and your family, you can't be having money stolen, drama, and worrying about your mom on your plate when you're not getting any sleep and adjusting to life as a new mom you know? I know it's hard because I'm SUPER close with my mom, but it will all work itself out.