Am I being rediculous?

[emylinicole91]

So my boyfriend and I are having our first baby. He is divorced with a 6yr old son. So since we found out i was pregnant its been an argument over using his pack n play he had for his child. Is it wrong of me to not want to use it because it was his ex's for thier child? He says im being spoiled and rude. But seriously would you want to use your bfs exs used baby crap. Ugh i need opinions

[Mrzflaca8724]

Ur man is just pure cheap!! My man doesnt want our kids with anythimg used unless its from our older daughter to the younger daughter!!  And we give our stuff that their to big for or dont fit away after we clean them to her cousims... Im glad me and my man have our kids together cuz id b dam if he say somethin like tjat to me... If hes growm enough to have a child he can dam sure stop beimg cheap and buy the baby stuff!!! Good luck

[jen_ortiz]

U r not being ridiculous at all !!!! I have a crib but my husband wants brand new everything for this baby !!!! This is ur first baby so u too deserve all new stuff !!! 6 yrs that seems a Lil old to be having that still laying around smh

[MrsWoodson]

I personally don't see the big deal. Sometimes you have to look past things in order to keep moving . Is just a pack n play, after all your only going to use it briefly in their lives. It'll save money, it's not like the ex demands to be there or anything. I'm not saying to use everything from his ex but some things shouldn't be that big of a deal. I mean I'm using a lot of hand me downs but there are some things id like new for my baby, esp bring my first. Please don't take this offensively, is my own opinion.

[mirandann]

I mean you have every right not to want to use it, but you don't need to throw a fit about it bc its not that serious. If he keeps insisting on it, just explain this is your first child and you want to be able to purchase his first items.

[febmama2013]

Think of it this way.. say you had already had a child with your ex and had some stuff you could use with this baby and current partner, you would use it. Same situation!! You partner is as much as a parent as you are. I think some people forget that some times.

[mrsmummytobe]

If you don't want to use it then don'tyour choice who cares what people say it's you baby at the end of the day

[emylinicole91]

Yeah i know
Im still debating. Im probably going to put one on my register for one anyways :) idk its just frustrating.

[mrsmummytobe]

Why don't you suggested mother leaves it at her house for when you visit her invade the baby needs some were to sleep or play? That way you won't look as nasty but im with you my boyfriends Mam wanted me to UAE a second hand crib and I said no bit she could use it at her house incase baby wanted a nap whilst there just an option but I don't think your wrong for not wanting to use it it's your first baby and it's special to buy the things and go shopping with the dad

[Jkrodgers]

No!! Tell him to quit being cheap your don't want his exs leftovers!!

[Shirano]

Probably the best decision lol. That way next time he can :P

[emylinicole91]

Okay thanks ladies....im thinking i might compromise on this one...lol idk haha

[carolina0105]

I think that as a ftm we want everything new.. but really the baby won't bother if its used or new. Just wash it sanitize it and you can use that money towards another thing..

[2girlsin2years]

I personally understand the whole Ex situation...but we cnt compare lingere to baby stuff... Seriously... That's senseless n childish!... No one on here is filthy rich... So as long as the toy is in gud condition I wouldn't mind... Bcuz its nt coming from some random child u Dnt know... Wash n sanitize...n keep it truckin its toys... Not clothes!... So just think about it...

[Shirano]

The baby stuff is the 6 year old child's not the ex's. she didnt use it for herself it was used for her son. And if you are a mom to him it shouldn't matter that you use his stuff with your baby his soon to be younger brother. It could be a bond for them. Unless the baby things are no longer up to safety code I would use them because babies are very expensive. A newborn goes through 8-10 diapers a day. That's a lot of money. If the baby things are safe it will help you save for the real money spenders, diapers, lol.

That being said you can't help the way you feel but maybe try to change your view of the baby stuff, that it is your oldest's baby things, and it will save money. Rather than its the other woman's baby things.

[Cody13]

I don't think he's being ridiculous, he's probably just trying to save money, I understand from your point of view alot of women would say that but I think their being selfish the ex have nothing to do with it it's not like she slept in it.

[MadameN]

If there isn't a safety issue involved maybe have a compromise. Use some little things and then buy some of your own brand new. Saying outright that you won't use anything she used for her child makes it look like you're still jealous of her (even though she isnt there) and her child and it may be hurting him that you won't want your child to share anything with his; as if you secretly don't like his child and you're finding a way to say it.

[jgeis0611]

I used baby stuff from my first kid with someone else and my husband now didn't have any problem they think it a money saver....

[ShePowell]

Have you got a problem with his son or just hisi ex? I would be grateful for all the help I could get. Completely understand you want new things for the baby, but it's probably not going to have the mange or anything! The safety thing could be a tiny concern, but I'd just check that out.

At the end of day, your boyfriends son is going to be your babies big brother, so I don't see anything wrong with using his stuff. However, at the end of the day that is just my opinion.... You are entitled to do whatever you wish & your boyfriend should respect that! :-)

[MamacitaTP]

In all honesty it may be a tad ridiculous.. but who cares- if it bothers you that much then just get a new one your boyfriend will get over it in a day haha :) Plus the safety of it is questionable after 6 years better safe than sorry :)

[breee08]

Avoid the conversation andJust put a pack n play on your registry and someone will get it for you.

[emylinicole91]

The saftey thing is a good reason! Didnt think of that thanks. Oh his sons hasnt seen or talked to his mom in over a year she doesnt even try.....i am more of a mom to him than he has ever had. :/

[RockRose]

I think you should use this furniture.

And I wrote another whole post but I wiped it out because sometimes I get misunderstood for being rude and mean.

[xmybubix]

I feel that if youse want too get on and kinda b a big family you will kind of have to get over that shes his ex and think of her as his babys mom as it will cause problems if use dont fet on, i would take it as its thear and saves money

[meg_ftm_sohappy]

Also you've got to think... It is 6yrs old. Safety regulations have changed and it may not be safe