what would yu do??

[lovelyglover]

So my mother in law just married someone in prison
..I've already told my husband we are not taking my son there when he is born and yesterday she says "when Isiah comes back from deployment we have to take him to go see Mike"
I told her I didn't want my son going to a prison

She always brings up how her friend brings her granddaughter but that's not me and its not my son

What would yu do in this situation since I know she is going to ask again, it really just bugs me because she just can't accept what I say

[KTowne]

No wayyyy would my children ever go to a jail, to see someone that they're not even close with, even if it WAS someone they were close with, I wouldn't allow it! I would definitely stand your ground, and it it causes a problem, oh well, she needs to know you're the parent and she's not!

[sim89]

Yep defo get hubby to agree with you-if all else fails,say your son has an appointment for injections on that day and can't be rearranged.bit realisticlt you need to say your son is not going-i could understand if it were his real grandad-even I would feel sorry n give in but don't put your child at risk for this stranger.

[trying43]

Get hubby on board.  I am sure he wouldn't want the baby exposed either.  He's gonna have to step up. Good luck.

[lovelyglover]

My husband doesn't say anything because he knows his.mom is always right but I did tell him next time he needs to back me.up

[Nina159]

Ur baby tell her NO and to stop asking that no matter way she says isent going to change ur.mined and u dont want to expose ur baby to that type of envierment

[lovelyglover]

She will take a pic wether I agree or not... she does what she wants but.yu guys are right.I'm gonna have to put my foot down

[sim89]

What does your husband say?

[sim89]

So you have to put your point across-even if it means make a deal of it.jus becuse she accepts thisman as her husband,does not mean you have to accept him as you baby grandad-he has no connection.you need your m.I.l. to understand that your not going to expose your child to such environment.maybe make a compromisentel her he can meet your an when he comes out or she can take a pic?

[trying43]

Then for your babys health, you just may have to make it a big deal.  When my husband comes home from work he immediately puts his uniform in the washer and takes a shower especially if he's been in the jail so he doesn't expose our kids to anything.  I don't think your mother in law is thinking straight, tell her you married him so you go there we are not.  That guy is not your family.  Good luck.

[lovelyglover]

The sad thing is my mother in law is aware of all that! She worked at a prison for 16 years and quit her job to be with this inmate...this man I have met once just a few weeks ago. He's not my baby's grandfather so it shouldn't be a big deal but she will.make it one

[trying43]

Ummmm no!  Unlike a hospital a prison is not a sterile environment so that many people in a confined space breeds many illnesses and diseases a baby is not yet immune to!  There is no way I would expose my baby or young child or even myself to that.  The prison staff are vaccinated against many of the illnesses but inmates and visitors are not making them very susceptible to the illnesses which are airborne.  Our local jail had a tb outbreak a few years back and hepatitis also. (Hubby is a police officer and many of our friends work at the federal prison and state prison in our area)  approach it that way to your mother in law she can't possibly want the new baby around that.  Good luck.

[lovelyglover]

I just don't want it to cause a big problem! My husband and I went a few weeks ago just because she was getting married and when she asked I told her I wasn't comfortable there and I don't want him going there

I told her a while ago prison is not a place for a baby and her response was "I think taking them as a baby is fine cause they wont remember it!"
She is never wrong and I just don't want any problems when she asks again because I know its only a matter of time...

[lisas9]

I wouldn't take any of my children, even to visit someone they were close with. He is your son so it is up to you what and who you choose to expose him to. I would be firm but understanding with your mother in law. Make it clear than that your decision won't change.

[crstl11]

I would just tell her no...prison is not a place for a baby. When he gets out he can see the baby and maybe send him a picture.

[V_Marie123]

I'm with u ....my child wudnt be goin either

[dcsteed]

It's your son, id tell her if she doesn't like it, tough luck!