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things didn't go so good
Told my bd mom that I'm pregnant again and she told me that I should get an abortion I thought she was gonna b supportive like she was with my son but I guess not now I'm even more STRESS I get so stressed I feel my stomach getting cramps I haven't told my mom it's gonna b 20 times worst now Idk what to do I won't have a. Place to stay when I tell my mom I'm gonna get a job soon I have to full out the paper work Friday my bd mom said she would even pay for the abortion she said me and my bd aren't ready to have a kid and he isnt stable he has a car a job makes 700 every two weeks and she does help a lot with my son. I'm ten weeks and I was gonna get an abortion when I was six weeks then I decided to keep it and I don't wanna go through a surgical abortion it's sad and I heard it's also painful I really wanna finish school but idkhow iI'm gonna do that without any help she said that her mom loves to watch my son but she won't watch another baby I had it all planed out I would have them both go to daycare everything has gone so bad for me been stressing out a lot and ik it's hurting the baby it's crazy how everything turns out to be
I agree with rebeccaann11. She's probably scared that y'all are so young, but then again there is always a way to say what you mean without hurting people's feelings. I know teen moms have this bad rep, but I applaud you for not giving in to the stereotype. You keep doing what you have to to take care of your family.
I really hope you keep the baby, & everything works out for you! As you can see theres gonna be very rude and judgemental people, especially to teen parents but hey if our kids are well taken care of and we are doing our best to better our future then i think we are on the right track of being awesome moms :)
Thanks I'm still trying to figure everything out.
And no my bd still live with his mom.
And no my bd still live with his mom.
A "surgical" abortion (not really surgery as they don't cut anything) doesn't really hurt, just FYI. There's some cramping afterwards but it isn't so bad really. Most hospitals put people under general anesthesia or use a spinal block - I've had the procedure twice (one elective abortion twelve years ago and one after an incomplete miscarriage this past December) and refused pain medication for both, it wasn't terrible. Though both certainly caused emotional stress, the second was much worse than the first.
You have to take into consideration all of the things that will change with a second child if you keep this one. If you lose free childcare and have to pay for fulltime care for two kids - do you really know how much that will cost? For most people, especially without college degrees, it's not less than a weekly paycheck. Which means your "bd" would need to be able to support four people on his own, on $350/week, because it won't make financial sense for you to work and it won't be financially possible for you to attend school instead of staying at home with the two kids. Except - you say you dont know where you'll be staying. Your education, or lack thereof, will affect the rest of your life and what you are able to provide as a parent. I'm not going to tell you what to do and I'm not saying you should have an abortion because your MIL says you should. I just think you should think about whether you can really do this. Abortion is still an option. Adoption is an option. It sounds horrible and heartless but I would hate to see one more young mother raising babies in poverty without an education to help her improve her life for her family's benefit especially when she has a choice to get out with better options for herself. It's not a person yet, and I say that as a woman who lost a dearly wanted pregnancy at 12 weeks. It's a hard choice to make. But you're young. And you have time for more babies, when you're done with school and you're ready to do it. I hope for the best for you and your son. Good luck.
You have to take into consideration all of the things that will change with a second child if you keep this one. If you lose free childcare and have to pay for fulltime care for two kids - do you really know how much that will cost? For most people, especially without college degrees, it's not less than a weekly paycheck. Which means your "bd" would need to be able to support four people on his own, on $350/week, because it won't make financial sense for you to work and it won't be financially possible for you to attend school instead of staying at home with the two kids. Except - you say you dont know where you'll be staying. Your education, or lack thereof, will affect the rest of your life and what you are able to provide as a parent. I'm not going to tell you what to do and I'm not saying you should have an abortion because your MIL says you should. I just think you should think about whether you can really do this. Abortion is still an option. Adoption is an option. It sounds horrible and heartless but I would hate to see one more young mother raising babies in poverty without an education to help her improve her life for her family's benefit especially when she has a choice to get out with better options for herself. It's not a person yet, and I say that as a woman who lost a dearly wanted pregnancy at 12 weeks. It's a hard choice to make. But you're young. And you have time for more babies, when you're done with school and you're ready to do it. I hope for the best for you and your son. Good luck.
I'm not trying to bash anyone and if it comes off that way I'm sorry. I had my daughter at 18 so I know how it goes. I'm now 21 was a three year old.
maybe she's upset because her son and her daughter are having kids at a very young age?? The bad part about teen pregnancy is some teen moms will end up having their parents raise their babies. so that gives the rest of the teen moms a bad name. Maybe she's just worried about that
maybe she's upset because her son and her daughter are having kids at a very young age?? The bad part about teen pregnancy is some teen moms will end up having their parents raise their babies. so that gives the rest of the teen moms a bad name. Maybe she's just worried about that
There are ppl that r younger than 18 having sex and I don't think 18 is too young to have sex tf ur an adult right...?!
Thanks, I'm 19 in college for ultrasound tech I'm.no longer in high school I graduated last yr I'm trying to stay in college but idk how is that if I'm gonna have two kids but there is a lot to think about not really on getting an abortion because ik my baby has a heart beat
So basically its okay for her to tell me to keep my legs closed when i have my stuff together ? Im sorry but i dont think thats okay at all. Yes im 18 and im pregnant with my 2nd child. Her daughter is 16 & pregnant with her second, and still living with her. She has no reason to judge when her daughter is worse then me. My son has everything he needs, & im 18. I think i did a pretty good job of raising him @ a young age! Even though it wasnt planned i did it.
I think you should do what makes you happy despite what anyone says. Abortion is easier said than done when you're not the one getting it. There are many support groups out there that will give you the advice you need plus this community here! We all have our different stories but we all love our babies in common. I hope you get through school. I just finished 2 weeks before my due date so anything is possible. Good luck (:
the best advice I can offer. See if your school Offers a program if you're pregnant you could finish your credit early. I would definitely have both of you try to finish high school if neither one of you have finished high school yet. I would apply for state assistance. And maybe state help with the house.
how old are you guys? I would definitely try to get a plan in order that will help both of you in the long run. That would show people you're still moving forward.
how old are you guys? I would definitely try to get a plan in order that will help both of you in the long run. That would show people you're still moving forward.
She said that cause u have a two year old and ur 18? That's so young to be having sex and getting pregnant.
Me and my bf have a 2 year old son, and when we told my mother in law i was pregnant again she said i need to keep my legs closed! Like wtf? Im 18 iknow im young, but i finished school, we have our own place and we are engaged so it really upset me when she said that. It upset me even more when my bf didnt understand why i was mad.
Me and my bd isn't getting along yeah I need his support but we don't get along and I'm tired of it ,it's been going on for like a yr now I really don't wanna b with him that's what makes me even more stressed because I don't wanna b with him.And we don't get along and it makes me worry if I keep this baby where will I be at
Dont stress it cuz she needs to remember that the child u are caring has her sons blood too...u and bd did this together...like u said their is daycare...belive me u do not want to do a decision that would either haunt u or make u wonder or the what if's all that matter is ur bd supporting ur decision
That's true.She was just texting me a lot of stuff that was putting me done so I just stopped texting her.
Dont worry once u have ur baby shes going to have to bite her tongue....its ur decision. ..shes going to be all over the baby at the end of the day
Thank u I don't wanna go through for an abortion. It's sad that she wants Me to get it done she told me the baby doesn't need to b I'm this world
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