terrible twos??

[harlichance]

My 2 year old son for the last few weeks has literally not listened to one thing. He's constantly yelling at me, screams now whenever he wants something. Example "get my cup, now". he's been hitting. I just don't understand what got into him. He's usually so sweet. Always uses please and thankyou. And he's just been so mean to me and his dad. I've heard terrible twos but what does that mean exactly?

[harlichance]

We just recently moved into our own place a few weeks ago, we were living with my parents before. So I was thinking maybe it was the move that was making him act up. But its just him, his dad and me. My mother babysits him at our home when we work and that's about 40 plus hours a week so I was thinking maybe that's his problem because before my fiance got his job he always had his dad home and all of a sudden were gone a lot. We explain to him were going to work and let him know when well be home and he gets upset that he can't come so it makes me feel horrible and I already feel bad that we work so much but that's neccesary to pay our bills and make sure he has everything. As soon as I found out we were pregnant I told him he was gonna have a brother or sister and he talks to the baby nearly everyday. He rubs my belly and talks and puts his ear on my stomache and listens. And he asks about the baby a lot.

[2wns_Keeper]

Imagine two, two year old twins, just be patient

[BabyTurnip]

Also it may be good to talk to him about the new baby coming in the family. Kids are smart and they can sense when things are changing around them. He may feel things will change too much around him. Maybe hes scared of getting less attention or not having enough time with mommy and daddy. Im not saying its okay to act that way and kids do go threw a phase (actually they have like a gazillion phases in theyre childhood lol) but i seriously think its not good for him to be yelling and hitting. Im thinking something else is behind it also because sweet kids dont usually start using violence over night. He may feel stress or scared. Its definately something to look into at least. Maybe a little talk and including him in choices for the baby will make him feel more included. Its hard to talk to a two yrs old and but remenber its just as hard for them to express what they are feeling :) good luck and hopefully hes just not hitting his teenage years ultra early lol (just kidding)

[EricaMeria]

He's just testing you. Kids go through phases where they need to push the envelope and see what you are still strict on and where you will give them a little more space and freedom to explore. Kids test our boundaries as a way of testing our love. They want those boundaries, but you just have to keep strong and develop them and give your child space and freedom as he deserves and earns it. Not always a fun phase but it is just another way of developing your relationship with your kiddos. And remember, at 2, kids' brains are more developed and their speech and language is more developed so things they may or may not have said/done before can start to show. Good luck!

[AshleyLile]

I am in the same spot with my step children and there mother ugh!!! But the kids are older an she teaches them to call me names an talk behind my back... It takes a big toll on my marriage and it teaches MY children to treat me that way... So frustrated

[torixoxo1]

My Fiancé has a 2 year old soon who just recently has been acting strange, saying "No!" In my opinion I think its best to discipline the child and don't do as he/she says. When I tell him to go to his room he'll say NO! So I usually put him in a corner and tell him that he doesn't tell me no! He usually is sweet he still says please, thank you & your welcome but he does like to back talk and since the mother doesn't like me I don't know what he gets away with at her house but I hope he realizes that Daddy's & my house HAS rules!