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What are the BEST gift 2 Buy..
To all who following my story.. here i am asking sincere help of what you all mommy's and daddy's think the BEST gift i should buy for my still birth 21week Baby Aidan for Valentines Day next week.. maybe some will feel this is insane to do so.. but he is my only baby alive or not and i really wanted to buy something but with my head/thinking turn upsidedown and too much baby things around i little bit blur of what will be the best one..!! I really wanted to remember Aidan in the nicest ways and hope it will help me heals... thanks in advance mama's and daddy's.. let see which gift my heart say go for it.. i will post the picture out once i buy it..!!! thanks in the millions...
Hugsss...
Rachel
Hugsss...
Rachel
Best Answer
I also had a still birth at 21 weeks almost 11 years ago. We too wanted to give our child a special gift to let him know what his short life had meant to us. We choose to purchase, plant, and dedicate a tree in his honor. It has been such a joy to watch the tree grow as the years have past. Because our son was born just a few days before Easter we choose a dog wood tree. Now, each year around his birthday the beautiful blooms are like his gift back to us. I am not sure where you live, but with a little research I am certain you could find a tree which would offer you the same blessing. Please, do not slow anyone to makes you feel awkward for memorializing your child in any way in which brings you comfort and peace. Not now in three days when things are still so fresh, nor years into the future. I still think of my son everyday. Some days I can do so with joy in my heart as I reflect on howd amazing it is that her accomplished his life's purpose in mere weeks when it takes others a life time. And yet, still all these years later I still find my heart heavy with the longing for what was lost. You will defiantly be in my prayers.
Waooooo.. so Aidan name bring special meaning for you and me then... love that..!! actually my Hubby pick that name... Ai in Chinese means LOVE... Dan its part of my hubby name Daniel.. so Aidan its actually Love of Daniel... and it will forever be... :) thank you so much... the idea its great.. i also m/c 4 times before Aidan.. twice D&C twice natural... Aidan its my last baby and the only one goes to far in my pregnancy yet not full term.. :(
sghlg.. me too love the idea but staying in condominium make it almost impossible for me to do it...!! but i tell my hubby about it maybe we did at our province but i will love to have it cose to me if can... anywhere thanks..
BUMP...
sghlg.. me too love the idea but staying in condominium make it almost impossible for me to do it...!! but i tell my hubby about it maybe we did at our province but i will love to have it cose to me if can... anywhere thanks..
BUMP...
I'm sorry for your lost everytime I read about your story it breaks my heart... My friend lost her lil boy at 8months and she got a tattoo of his name with wings with the date he was sent to heaven... I don't know if you like tattoos but it helped her alot but I love the tree idea that's beautiful way to keep his spirit alive whatever you choose I hope it brings you the peace you deserve
I also have to say that my sons name is Aidan and every time I read your posts about your son my heart breaks to think of what I would do without him. You are a very strong woman and I pray you soon find peace with the loss of your sweet boy.
My husband gave me a pandora charm bracelet a few years ago and I have a few beads for him and my son. And after each miscarriage I went and bought a special bead for that baby as well. It is my own way of remembering the sweet babies that we have lost that are still a part of our family even though they didn't make it past 10 weeks.
The time capsule idea i very much love it... consider it that once i return to my country Malaysia... this disaster was actually took place when i was having holiday to Jakarta where happen my hubby being sent for contract job...!! and now i need to go back only to bring Aidan's ashes.. so heartbreaking... :(
The tree idea is beautiful, and if you have the opportunity I would say go for it!
You also have a wonderful gift for wording things. I might suggest another letter to him in addition to whatever you get him. Your words and love will be the best gift that can ever be asked for, and even though he cannot read them, I know he will know the sentiment behind them and that he loves you too!
If there is a away to do the tree maybe also do a time capsule with this letter, if not keep the letter, maybe even scrapbook or memorialize it in some way.
If you don't want to write him again, that's understandable. Feelings that are so deep are so hard to put to paper. It's like bearing your soul and knowing it might get hurt. Maybe a memorial of him for you would be great. Like a locket with his picture in it or something. Just something to show him ” I'll never forget you Aiden.”
You also have a wonderful gift for wording things. I might suggest another letter to him in addition to whatever you get him. Your words and love will be the best gift that can ever be asked for, and even though he cannot read them, I know he will know the sentiment behind them and that he loves you too!
If there is a away to do the tree maybe also do a time capsule with this letter, if not keep the letter, maybe even scrapbook or memorialize it in some way.
If you don't want to write him again, that's understandable. Feelings that are so deep are so hard to put to paper. It's like bearing your soul and knowing it might get hurt. Maybe a memorial of him for you would be great. Like a locket with his picture in it or something. Just something to show him ” I'll never forget you Aiden.”
Yeahhh... sound great.. but i am staying in condominium... i not sure if its possible for me.. but i very much like the idea too.. maybe i will do one for him at his grandma house at our province... hugss... :)
I love rhythmgrace's idea about planting the tree. Such a wonderful representation for your little one. It's like he'll live on through that tree and you can watch it grow like you'd have watched him grow.
That's sounds cool... more ideas welcome... i have till Sunday to decided... Bump....!!!
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