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Well, My doctor called and said that I was in the process of having my second miscarriage :( 
Man the emotions that I have gone through this last week have been horrible, but at least I don't have to wonder anymore. 
Ya know.....here's what gets me. There are all of us on here that yern for babies....hell I have 3 of my own already and my husband and I are also licensed for parents but have always struggled to get pregnant and then maintain them. Why is it there there are so many woman out there that don't want babies, but keep getting pregnant and have multiple abortions as a form of birthcontrol, and all these crazy, abusive parents who can't and don't take care of their kids who can conceive and carry their babies while using coke and other drugs. It just makes me nuts! Why is it that all of us loving, caring, wonderful people have to go through all this, and they don't? Sorry....had to vent. I wish everyone the very best of luck and the strength to get through whatever it is that you're going through.

abbieball · Answer

I too have had 7 miscarrages and this is my first pregnancy to make it this far so I understand what you mean. Keep your head up you can do this. Plus just remember at least you get to keep practising to make the baby.

bioclock1 · Answer

I'm really sorry you're going through this. I don't know how you'll take this, but, I'm adopted and every day I think about how lucky I am to have been adoptd by my parents. my life wasn't perfect, my twin brother has major behavioral problems, and there is a lot more to the story of my family then i'm willing to put on public forum. Nevertheless, i feel as though I am who I am today because of the struggles I've been through, including coming to terms with being adopted (which I discovered at age 15 and was fnally told about truthfully at age 27 (just a few months ago). My own belief, in terms of some women not being able to conceive, is that God has a different plan, or maybe our souls have a different plan. It's not comforting when a women desperately wants a child and can't, but for those who do go on to adopt or do foster care, I can testify that we adopted children are thankful. I can't imagine what my life woulda been like had I not been adopted. I'm in the psychology profession now, helping substance abusers. What if my parents had never adopted me and instead had their own children biologically? Would I be out there helping others? WOudl I have been abused by my biological parents? Would I be living on the streets because of lack of opportunity? 

LIke I said...I'm sure this doesn't help. I just wanted to give you the persepctive of an adult woman of childbearing age who was once that unwanted child at 15 months of age...and a couple who couldn't have children DID want us... and thank GOD!.

I'll pray for you and every woman who is struggling with conception or abortion or any other pregnancy difficulty. 
God bless.

addysmom · Answer

I too lost 3 precious babies...keep your chin up...I know how hard it is...and I will be praying for you!

AnitaRFrith · Answer

I'm SOOO sorry.  If you need to talk then write me.  I have lost twins and I had a ectopic pregnancy.  I lost one tube from the ectopic.  So I understand what you are going through.  It will happen when it is meant too.  I'm going to be praying for you.  Keep your chin up... God Bless.  Anita

avik7 · Answer

im soooo sorry that u had to go through that.its really hard. ive had two miscarriages and i still find it hard to handle. i found the miscarriage community on here and there are some amazing women that are very inspirational. If u decided to join i hope u find some comfort and peace..they helped me alot! i will be praying for u.

Linzola1 · Answer

I have had a miscarriage and it is one of the hardest things I have ever gone through. Since then I have had one successful pregnancy but thehurt is still there. God Bless

Whitneylauren · Answer

Sweetie I am so so so so sorry for your loss.... no matter how many children you have it will never make up for such a loss. As blueeyetabbycat says, at least you know that you can carry a pregnancy to term....

WorriedLisa · Answer

i meant to say licensed Foster parents.....sorry! I guess I was lost in my tangent.
Thanks for your kind words Tabitha

blueeyedtabbycat · Answer

I am so sorry that you have to go through this:( And although I have never hard a m/c I do understand what you mean about girls/woman taking for granted the ability to have babies, while others that want it more than life its self struggle with fertility.
Please dont give up hope, you have 3 children already so you know that you CAN have a successful pregnancy.
I pray that your doctor is wrong............it has happened before.
Hugs
*Tabitha*