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[piggypiggy]

this may be a dumb form. but my mom has told me im going on the depo shot, im very upset. i hard it makes you gain over 10 pounds and gives you headahcs and can even make acne worse. im also worried about having a pap smear, do you think i will have to have one for this?

[martikadragoon]

Good suggestion!! I agree!

Could I add another suggestion based on your though???... If her mom is anything like mine was (my mom grounded and guilt tripped over EVERYTHING, the more involved "mother daugher" type stuff the worse it was)... I'd tell the doctor before her mom comes in the room that I REALLY would prefer the patch, and ask the doctor if he/she could mainly offer THAT instead of the shot when mom comes in to talk and to not mention anything about asking for the patch instead of the shot.

Just ask to have the patch or another option OTHER than shot offered.....That way her mom just thinks that the doctor thinks it's not the best option as well. ..

[Grandmatobe]

So tell the doctor that you want your Mom out of the room while you have your pap, and then invite her in afterwards for any "discussions".  But before, you bring her back in, tell the doctor that you want the patch (or whatever else) and let her think the doctor already gave her the shot.  I understand that Moms can create control over their teens (I have had two girls, so I understand both sides), but this issue really is between you and your doctor.

[piggypiggy]

thanks for all your help. but i know my mom is very set on the depo but i will talk to my doctor who ever, cause i know i really dont want it.

and i know i can tell my doctor i dont want her in the room but she will get mad and upset and later ground me or give me the guilt trip, so ya.

i know being grounded is not the end the world, i dont really care about taht its just for a dumb reason.

and im pretty sure when i go to talk about birth control i will get a blood test cause my mom said im getting a full check up.

also i have had the shots for HPV

[NicoleW09]

I got put on birth control when I was 14. My GYN gave me options, as I'm sure yours will. From my experience, the patch was the best option. I loved it! The length of my menstrual cycles were cut in half. They went from 7 days to 3 to 4 days. I had much less cramping and they weren't as heavy. My acne cleared up and I didn't have horrible migraines before af. It's called Ortho Evra and I did not gain any weight on it. I actually lost a couple pounds. Last year I got stupid and decided I wanted to try the Implant, Implanon. It was by far the biggest mistake I have made. I gained forty pounds, I turned into a pizza face, and I started having bad cramps. The first month I actually had two periods. I bled when they put it in. You have to be on your period so that they can ensure that you aren't pregnant. Two weeks later, I had another period. After that, I had continual spotting for three months. My liver enzymes were elevated and I just felt crappy. They took it out and I gradually began to feel better! She put me on Orth Tricyclen because I could get it at walmart for ten bucks a month, and it was okay. I think I took one months worth because My husband and I decided to try for a baby. Since then, It has been difficult to conceive because my body is trying to get used to not having the birth control.

If I were going to go back on bc I would choose to go back to the patch that I would change once a week, or use the nuvaring.

[martikadragoon]

Riot~ other than the shot making you hungry, the amt of hormones in it affects your body chemistry to make it think it's pregnant, which then makes your body hold on to the calories you DO eat. I asked a couple different doctors when I was on it because even on diet and excercise I couldn't stop gaining weight, AND I couldn't lose weight (3-4months of excercise/diet 2hrs a night 5 nights a week), I also experienced morning sickness type symptoms, and extreme bloating and stuff.

Other posters are correct, Most doctors will NOT put mirena in until youve had at least 1 child possibly two. the reason is it's got the same risks as an IUD, of porforation or poking through your uterus wall, OR being expelled since your uterus has never been stretched out from pregnancy so it's too small in there.

As for the pap smear, Joy's right it tests for HPV, so if you haven't begun it already you need to get that HPV Vaccination ASAP. It's a round of several shots, you get one, then a month or so later another, then I think 6 months later another. I only had the first so I don't remember the time line. You need blood work to test for STD's

if you DO have an STD there's nothing your mom can do to you other than what, ground you? lol. It might seem like the end of the world to get grounded and get stuff taken, but it's not. Your mom just wants you to be safe/healthy!

You'd need it treated AS SOON AS POSSIBLE because it's possible for a woman to have an STD with no symptoms, and as I said before STD's can cause problems with your fertility later on when you want babies.

Legally, also if you don't want your mother in your doctors appointment with you she can't be in there. If you tell the doctor you want to speak with just you and the doctor they can make your mom leave the room, otherwise they are at risk of being sued. It's called Doctor patient confidenciality, and it applies to you as well especially at the OBGYN's office. When my sister went to her appointment, she told the doctor that she didn't want my mother in there, and also told the doctor she did NOT want any of the stuff they discussed to be told to my mom either, and they didn't. as a matter of fact my mom can't even call in there to get info on her, because it would break the confidentiality.

[claire38]

i was thinking about this a little bit i think ur mom wants u to get the shot so she knows ur getting a form of bc i think the best thing for u to do is to sit down and have a heart to heart with ur mom let her know ur worries and concerns.