vent moment

[taianasmum]

So my bf of 4 yrs and I are on our 2 baby. I'm 37w now and we were going to go to the store to buy some stuff for my baby shower on Saturday. And when we get to the store he says you better check the card balance and I said why I haven't spent anything we should have 200 on there. He said he tried to use it and it declined. Well guess what I checked and he had spent all of it with his friends the other day and didn't say crap. Mind you I'm the one working he don't. And I can barely work my full time hours. He's such a joke I'm going to go Crazy. He don't put me and my daughter first. He just does stupid stuff and don't care how it affects me and our family

[Jessika20]

I'm sorry he did that. My fiancé is the one who works since I can't and if I need something he makes sure he goes with me so we don't have a problem like this. Not that I am going to blow all our money on bs but just to help make sure I'm not spending to much. I would stop putting the money on his card an keep it to yourself an if he wants/ needs something give him how ever much the stuff is. That is very irresponsible of him especially with one your daughter coming soon an two your baby shower being this weekend.

[KyandKay]

I was going to say the same. Take his card away. Change your pin number. If he's not working he shouldn't be out enjoying the money you work hard for then on top of that with his friends. His priorities are messed up

[2ndBabyDueFeb13th]

Amen to everything the ladies above said. No access to spend freely if he doesnt work, but nunber one why doesnt he work? And laslty, if this is the kind of man he is, maybe he needs to be kicked to the curb :-/

[ireloc]

Then take his card away. If he is not contributing to the income, then he shouldn't have access to spend freely. If he needs a little money for gas or something, give him an allowance, when it's gone it's gone. Or better yet, make him get a job -is there a physical reason he can't work?

[amandak0805]

I was in the same situation. The only difference is we didn't have kids thank god. It was hard for me to leave would be harder with kids. Maybe he will change in time. From my experience that wasn't the case. Not trying to negative just honest.

[jess-ann5]

Sounds like you need to give the boyfriend an allowance. If he isn't bringing in an income, he shouldn't have the freedom to spend whatever he wants with your money. I would take him off of your account or create a separate account that only you are on. That way he it doesn't matter what he wants to do, he will have to go through you to do it.

One of the things that keeps my hubby in check is that I give him a weekly amount that we can spend. I tally up all the bills, including the savings we need to put back for our baby girl and then tell him this is what you can spend. We both make an income in my household, but its sometimes hard to men to handle their financial situation. Sounds like you need to take a little more control if you want to keep your man.

[jsuarez80]

Oh no I would make him go work for those 200 you worked your butt off for sorry but that's very bad responsibility he is showing you