did i over react?

[Baby2mommy]

So my husband n I try out this church today.....I was really nervous bout it course we both were. We haven't been in church for almost 10 months. N the ones we tried in between that time n when we got married wasn't good. I'm a Christian but I don't agree with going to a hypocritical church. The church we tried today was so family oriented I mean we talkin babies of all ages n toddlers n older children n young couples n everything. The vibe felt amazing. After the 1st hr was up our missionary asked if we were going to stay for Sunday school n b4 I had a chance to say I would love to my husband speaks up n lies to him saying he has to work WHEN HE DNT EVEN HAVE A JOB!!! N was like we have to leave. I got so furious with him. I want our son to grow up in a church n feel actual true love off everybody not just us. I want him to have an experience I never had. I was raised in a church but shoot my sis was murdered when I was 4 started getting beat when I was 7 rapped at 8 n lived on street at 13 n ended up in foster care at 14 so ya church is kind of a place I can go n not have to hide from my pain. We get home n I went straight to our room n locked myself in n he keeps on like o let's go out to eat let's go outta town!! Seriously!!!! so I kicked him out n sent him to his parents. We r basically staying married for the kids. I want to make this marriage work but I can't do it alone . Did I over react with sending him away so I can calm down??

[Baby2mommy]

That's wat I'm scared of. Thanks for feed back n listening. Hopefully he will.

[GordonBaby]

If he has known all of this time..and his reasons are for you to not be looked at or flirted with?? All to appease him?? That sounds  selfish. If you both cant compromise then decisions have to be made. Staying together for kids doesn't always work....it can create resentment and then it shows.

[Baby2mommy]

Every time I talk to him bout it he gets more mad. I understand he's stressed out bout not being able to work n having a second child but getting him to c it from my view......that's hard. See he has FAS n anxiety n depression so sometimes his mind gets over clouded n he can't process things fast enough. I hope we will make it. He is a sweet guy

[GordonBaby]

I think cooling off is the best thing to do right now if your really fired up. When you calm down, explain to him exactly what you just explained here. I know sometimes its much easier to express this way instead of putting it out there verbally, but unless he knows what you want, he can't make the changes (if he is willing) to better choose his ways or better choose ways to make your relationship work.

[Baby2mommy]

Like he gone till I relax.

[Baby2mommy]

Yes. He understands. N he knows how I feel. When we got married he told me he would keep me in a church environment n failed to do so. The one time I'm happy he pulls me out. His thing is that he dnt want me goin alone cuz he dnt want me stared at by guys n flirted with but yet doesn't want me to stay home. I'm like hello I'm pregnant!!!!

[Joceey]

oh i didnt read that clearly then. did you really kick him out or sent him away till you relaxed?? :oo
if you sent him away to relax then its fine
try keep him around
just have communication

[Joceey]

I don't think you overreacted
especially cause of our hormones!
Im sorry for everything you've expierenced and gone through
Did you let him know how important is it to you to be in a church environment?
Just relax and have time for yourself and talk to him later :)

[yourstruly21]

IMO, kicking him out was a little extreme but yu are not wrong for feeling the way yu do. Have yu told yer husband exactly what yu posted here?