Yeah.. I think she is jealous.. but its like.. Rude of her to sit and be all crappy to me whenever I tell her something then try to tell me stuff and expect me to be happy for her.. It just gets on my nerves so much.. because I am really excited and she just blows me off all the time.. but then when something exciting happens with her then she expects me to react with excitment and happiness.. its like no.. if you arent going to be nice to me then why should i care about you.. so i texted her and i was like well i wont be talking about the baby anymore seeing as how everytime i bring it up you get all weird.. and she was like "Its just that I dont really care.. its all you talk about" and i was like "I use it as something to keep a conversation going.. we are in the same boat I thought you would actually care" and shes like "yeah..." and im like but its cool i just wont talk about it to you anymroe.. and shes like "ok.. sorry not trying to be rude.." and i was like "No its cool. I understand." and then today she texts me asking about my ultrasound and baby shower!! its like WTF!!! if you dont want to hear about it dont ask because obviously when people ask or bring it up Im going to say stuff.. and then she sits and rambles on about how shes mad because her babys dad wants to drink instead of hang out with her.. UGH. I dont want to be mean to her but she just makes me so mad sometimes.. but yeah thanks for your advice.. and Joy I know exactly what you mean about always being genuinely excited for others.. Im that way too... I get excited about almost EVERYTHING.. lol so when she found out she was pregnant i was ecstatic because I would have a friend going through the same things and I thought I could talk to her about everything.. I just dont think she cares as much about being pregnant and having a baby as I do, or realizes what a miracle it is.. Because she didnt WANT to get pregnant and for the first month and a half all she talked about was how she didnt want to be pregnant or have a baby. Whereas even though my baby wasnt exactly "planned" I have been excited since I had my first ultrasound and realized everything was going to be ok this time and this pregnancy is really giving me a shot at somthing I thought I would never have.. So I just want to treasure it and share it with someone who cares. Maybe I should just keep it between my boyfriend and I because even though talking about baby 24/7 probably annoys him too at least Im letting him know stuff that he actually cares about seeing as how its his baby too.. lol
You're experiencing things that she's not yet and it's probably making her jealous. Add to that the pregnancy hormones and you've got a woman who's probably depressed about her situation. When someone is jealous, they will try to tear other people down to make them feel better.
betty12, I know what you mean. I always feel like I'm genuinely excited for other people but they could care less about my experience. It's best to just avoid those situations. They just make you feel inept.
I would just ignore it!!! it does sound like she s a little jealous of you because your ina better situation then what she is.and your actully trying to work things out with your ex. My sister and I are both preg she is about 3wks further than iam and everytime i tell her stuff like oh i bought this today she like oh like shes not very exited for me but then when she calls me and tells me she bought something or she felt the baby move im like omg how cute and exited for her so i kinda feel the same way. Also when she found out she was preg i was like omg how cool and at the same time i was sad because me and my husband had been ttc for a while and nothing but i didint let her know i was upset cuz i was so happy for her shes 23 almost 24 and when i found out i was preg she was like omg what are you gonna do your so young did you want a baby and being so rude about it and i was not going to just give my baby up because of her she made me feel like **** and i felt so down for a while. but i knew i was ready. i feel like shes been jealous the whole time becuase shes not the only one preg in our family and not all eyes are on her and also because shes having a girl and im having a boy, and im the first one in my family to have a boy, so i know shes jealous and mean sometimes and i just ignore her when shes being stupid!!! so i say just ignore her and let her be dumb.
Sounds to me that she is jealous. I always got jealous of people who were pregnant or something stupid, but I was mature enough not to make it obvious. You also have to understand that she may just be very hormonal at this point, or she doesnt want to experiance *baby stuff* through you since she isn't that far along yet. But then again I could be very wrong if she is acting the same way when you have different conversations with her.
Some people just think they know everything, when in fact they don't know a whole lot. The best advice I can give you is to ignore her behavior, or if you are really sick of it, confront her, maybe she doesnt even know she does what she does.
I have a friend with a simular issue, whenever she has a problem in her life she comes running to me, and whenever something good happens in her life she comes running to me, and I always act like I care even though 9 times out of 10 I dont, but when I run to her about something good or bad she blows me off, or sounds as if im insane for my actions/ways.
All I did was tell her that I felt as if she valued our friendship differently, and if she wanted our friendship she needs to be more supportive of me like I am with her, or if all else fails, keep her mouth shut about stuff I dont care to hear.