venting but really need advice...

[katierylenava]

I don't have any friends or family to talk to this about so any advice is greatly appreciated.. I've been with my boyfriend about 2 yrs now I have a 4 yr old some from previous relationship. I'm 29 weeks pregnant. So my son doesn't like my boyfriend hes never really said anything bad about him just that he doesn't like him and it hasn't always been that way. My boyfriend doesn't spend any time with him at all due to being at work all day and coming home late when my sons laying down. He has a weird way of playing with kids cuz he was brought up like this. He teases. Like he'll take a toy away from my son and laugh but makes my son wine and cry about it. I've talked to him before about this and nothing comes of it. He works 1pm-9pm a lot so be could wake up and play with him but he sleeeps till noon. I said what are you gunna go when the baby gets here your gunna have to get up early. He's says if he does he's gunna be pissed off all the time. He jokes a lot so I never know when he's serious. So what should I do about my son. He's my number one and I would never want to be with someone he doesn't like. Money is tight to and I can't make it without my boyfriends help. So I do I get him to understand that he needs to change and not tease and spend time with him. Which I think he just gets irritated with him a lot to cuz my son doesn't listen well. Im not a good disaplinarian (sp) .thanks for reading its long:-)

[Irene7]

Just let your feeling out and let him know how you feel and what bothers you. And how much you want him there . I think he will get it this time. Just let it all out .  Goodluck!:)

[katierylenava]

Thank you for your advice. This will be my boyfriends sec child also. But his way with kids isn't how me or most likely you would be. So I think a big talk is definitely coming.

[charlotteRb]

It sounds to me like your boyfriend is too immature to understand how to be a good father. If you are happy with him and can see yourself staying together it is important to encourage a better relationship between him and your son. Once a man sees his child born it can make them grow up and change so I hope that's what will happen for him and early mornings etc will not seem a big deal. What you do not want is for your boyfriend to bond with the baby and ignore your son because he will pick up on it and could end up feeling resentful towards his new brother/sister. Maybe the 3 of you should try doing some fun bonding things in the next few weeks before baby arrives.

[charlotteRb]

It sounds to me like your boyfriend is too immature to understand how to be a good father. If you are happy with him and can see yourself staying together it is important to encourage a better relationship between him and your son. Once a man sees his child born it can make them grow up and change so I hope that's what will happen for him and early mornings etc will not seem a big deal. What you do not want is for your boyfriend to bond with the baby and ignore your son because he will pick up on it and could end up feeling resentful towards his new brother/sister. Maybe the 3 of you should try doing some fun bonding things in the next few weeks before baby arrives.