Affair

[gwen2002]

would you stay with your bf/gf if they had an affair with someone they work with?

[brice1967]

After reading this poll, I think I found myself more confused.  The affair we are talking about right now apparently happened "at work".  The question was would you forgive an affair that happened at work, right?  Would that make an affair that happened outside the work place acceptable?  It shouldn't, and I'm guessing I missed the point.

Like mami, I think there are people that can forgive and some that cannot.  I think some couples have that special something that can help pull through infidelity.... nothing is a given and every single relationship needs attention.  (I know that now.)

I personally feel as if the affected person has a greater deal to go through.  So much rebuilding on a personal level, and that is on top of what needs to be accomplished as a couple.  

The cheater has a bunch of work to do too, but again.... nothing is a given.  

Reparation is a constant thing requiring both parties attention.  Even then, it is a difficult thing.

[mami1323]

I forgave my husband for a long term affair in which he had with a woman who trained at the gym he worked for.  We have since move past it.  It's doable and there is no easy answer to it. Some people can forgive and some can't.  There is no right way of doing this.  You have to decide what is best for you and your family.  It's a personal choice and no one should judge anyone on that decision.  And I don't believe once a cheat always a cheat.  Sometimes people do stupid things and they learn from that experience. Some people are serial cheaters.  But you never know.  As far as you going to the xmas party and she doesn't know you know.  Well I would make it very clear to her that you do know and that she should stay clear of your husband.  You don't have to tell her that but your husband definitely should.  Why should she feel comfortable?  Again that's just my opinion.

[raelynnsmommy]

I forgave my fiance, but mainly because it was at the beginning of our relationship and i understoodbecause  he cheated on me with his ex of 3 years and was unsure of his feelings. We have been together a year now so far, pregnant with our first and plan to get married in this upcoming sept. Baby is due in april

[raelynnsmommy]

I forgave my fiance, but mainly because it was at the beginning of our relationship and i understoodbecause  he cheated on me with his ex of 3 years and was unsure of his feelings. We have been together a year now so far, pregnant with our first and plan to get married in this upcoming sept. Baby is due in april

[Vance2335]

No reason to tell the husband about this. Keep it to yourself.

I could forgive but it would be difficult to trust knowing the people were still working together.

[Makaslu]

No I wouldn't 4gv him coz dez a possibility dat he wil do it again

[gwen2002]

how? just because my life is done right now he needs to find out like me... I told him this summer something was going on I got told brother sis thing......hope I hear what he thinks after!

[kelsebby92]

I deffinitly believe you should somehow tell her husband.

[gwen2002]

Im thinking the same as tonight is his christmas party which he went to, he wanted me to go but I couldnt act like I dont no, as he never told her I no. She is a married girl, I hope her husband finds out!  
              

                                          

[ANewLife4Me]

I voted no.  I have tried to forgive infidelity and it just didn't work.

[teko]

Forgiving someone for infidelity is the biggest cave in this world. Used to be it was a no brainer. You play you pay... Meaning you decided to end this relationship. Moving on. But now days its more giving them an excuse cause afterall, its just sex..... Some times the old ways were better. Healthier mentally and physically I think.