At what age is too old for a daughter to kiss her dad on the lips?

[inneedofhelp91]

I have been dating this guy for almost 2 years now. His daughter is almost 17 years old. She cuddles with him on the couch, kissing on his shoulder, kissing on his arms, rubbing on his stomach. She was lying on the couch with him, she had her head on his lap and he was rubbing her back. She laid there for hours that day. She kisses him on the lips before she goes to bed at night. She runs around the house in her bra and underwear all time. She is even now starting to run upstairs naked while her dad sits on the couch and can clearly see her running upstairs. She says "Daddy" dont look im naked. And yes she still calls him "Daddy", and talks like a baby around him. It drives me crazy when she does this. I have tried talking to my bf about this and he just says she is "Daddy's" little girl and always will be. I feel I always will be second best to her. I mean I have been putting up with it for 2 years now. I raised one daughter of my own and I have never ever saw anything like this. My bf says it is normal for a daughter to kiss and rub all over her "daddy", I told him no its not normal for a daughter at her age to do this. She even came into his bedroom not too long ago and crawled in bed with us. Laying her head on her daddy's shoulder, then she started kissing it. I got up and left the bedroom. I refuse to sit there while this is going on. I cant take it. It freaks me out.  

[marinemom73]

I TOTALLY agree........... this is not normal and discusting! That girl should have been giving limitations and bounderies years ago. I hope she was given the life skills to be self reliant and no longer a gaga baby and is able to moves out one day!  I have a step daughter just like this, but thank God moved out or we would not still be married! Granted she lives off the governement has nothing to do with being treated like a "princess" her whole life!HA! She has her own baby boy now and is still looking for that man who reminds her of her "daddy". Tell me this is normal......please

[BeyondSkeptical]

no..this is NOT healthy behavior...PERIOD! why should a teenage girl continue straddling dad and caressing him and kissing his limbs laying for hours with him practically nude, if a teenage boy wouldn't ever do that with his dad?! I can pretty much guarantee that NO father would allow his son to behave in such a manner..and any father that is NOT a deviant wouldn't allow his daughter to behave that way, either! Think about it, people!

[Katona1700s]

I dont know...i come from a life of being casted out by my parents. I was never close with either one of them when i was a child, but that was only because they were divorced and both liked to use me as a weapon against the other. But i HAVE seen normal families.
I honestly dont think this is okay..especially when the girl is 17 and crawling into bed with her dad and her father's girlfriend...thats just rude. Its okay if its during the day but i think nighttime between couples is sacred and personal time, she's not exactly being respectful towards the privacy.
Its just my opinion

[specialmom]

Ugh.  Please let us not turn this into a debate about what is 'normal' in a home.  Some families are indeed more casual about nudity than others.  

If anyone feels that their partner is inappropriate with their child of any age, I encourage you to try to communicate with them, reach a compromise, and do what is in the best interest of the child.  If someone feels that a parent is being sexual with their child, please contact the authorities.  good luck to all

[vicki595]

Does you daughter KNOW you watch her naked body walk from her bedroom to the bathroom?

At what point in her life will you think this is NOT okay?  Do you think a boyfriend or a husband would have a problem with this?

I agree. It's just not the norm. I, also, wonder about your daughter's development in this area.  I've known many, many girls and women and I don't know ONE who felt free to walk around their house or hallway naked in front of their fathers.

I would be mortified if my daughter behaved this way and her Dad would, as well.

[mami1323]

I agree with 4547624, I feel like the daughter may have some issues with you.  It sounds like you both are competing for this man's attention.  Whether or not the daughter's behavior is inappropriate, it is up to your bf to change the situation.  It sounds to me though that he is fine with how it is.  I am a stepmom to a teenager and she used to hug and kiss her dad all the time.  Although the naked thing is a bit odd.  But if they are that type of family then whose to say if its normal or not for them.  My personal opinion though, the daughter wants his love and affection and does things to get his attention.  She may think that you will take him away from her.  I'm looking at this psychologically of course.  Either way, you both seem to be passive aggressive with one another.  Maybe his daughter can sense your animosity towards her.  I really don't know, but it definitely does sound to me like you both have issues with one another.