Attending my sister in law’s baby shower

[AvaM2]

My sister in law has a baby shower. My boyfriend and I have a baby boy together and so he said that the invitation extends to the both of us. However, I only met his sister once. She greeted me sweetly but we haven’t communicated since. My parents are saying that she didn’t really invite me and now I’m not sure. Should I attend?

[RockRose]

So,  this is you boyfriend's sister,  and you have a child with your boyfriend but you've only met this sister once and she was sweet and welcoming then.  YES,  you should go with your boyfriend.  It's time to forge relationships with his family.  He knows them.  If he says you're invited too,  you're invited.  He should RSVP saying Ava and I would love to be there,  and then go and have a good time.  

[auntiejessi]

What does the invitation say? Is it addressed to you both?

I'd imagine since you have been together long enough to have a baby, you'd both be invited, especially if it's a couples or co-ed shower, but your partner can simply ask his sister if his invitation includes a plus one if your name isn't on the invitation.

Remind him to not make it a huge deal, or to tell his sister you were unsure, just to ask because it wasn't clear.

[AvaM2]

It was a virtual invitation that was sent to him. It had no name on the invite.

[auntiejessi]

Then you should have your partner ask his sister. He can make it casual, just to clarify. It's a valid question, and he shouldn't be afraid to ask it. He's in a long term, serious relationship with a woman he has a child with. It would be odd if you weren't included.

[AnnieBrooke]

If for some reason it feels impossible for him to ask her (though I assume it isn't that hard for him to do) -- but if he won't or can't, just send him to the shower with a gift with a warm note from you attached. My guess is she expects you to come, but it is definitely something he should ask.