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BUT I DONT WANA :-{
I hav a couple of questions about oral sex...Hi I'm 17, And my boyrfriend for sum dumb reason wants to always hav oral sex before or after sex. But wen I tell him no, he wants to complain and cry all the time, and jus doesn't want to hav sex any more. And sumtimes I think he gettin it from sum one else??! So basiclly wut I'm askin is...should I really give him oral sex?? I really don't want to because I've neva tried it. But wen I told him that ,he said "I kno becuz I'm the first boy u eva been wit so I hav to show u every thing"
If he is pressuring you to do something you aren't ready to do, then he isn't the one for you. Trust me! If you want to know what I would do in a situation like that, is I would grab him by the balls and yank! LOL! That'll teach him!
It's your choice. If you do not feel comfortable with doing it, then don't do it...plain and simple. If he pressures you then dump him right there and then. In my opinion, i personally hate doing it for my boyfriend...but I put up with it once in a while (i mean like special occasions like vacations...lol). It's just not something I like to do. I mean we have been together over 3 years...so sometimes I give in to him. Your boyfriend sounds like a jerk. If a guy can't take the word no..and you give in to him everytime with it, then he will always be expecting it. Your boyfriend should respect you and your choice.
Your clearly not ready to do that yet, and that's perfectly acceptable. Don't let him push you into doing something your not comfortable with. When you feel ready, it will just gradually happen. Your boyfriend should respect you more and just stop making you feel bad, your not doing anything wrong.
If you don't want to give him oral sex, DON'T. He shouldn't be pressuring you to do something you are not comfortable with and seems to not have the respect for you that you deserve. Just because he is your first doesn't mean you have to give him everything he wants. Make sure that you get something out of this relationship too, it's not all about him. In my opinion, if things don't change after talking with him and he still treats you this way, it's time to move on and find someone better. good luck.
Just out of curiousity is he willing to reciprocate for you? Either way if he is your first he should have enough sense if you are not his first to to let you set the pace. There is a reason most peoples first experiences (particularly a woman's) are often remenbered as their worst.
OK if you don't want to give oral sex, DON'T DO IT. if your boyfriend pressures you, LEAVE HIM. he is not respecting you as a partner, and you being a virgin before him is no excuse for him pushing you into doing certain things. He sounds like a complete @$$ and if you have any reason to suspect he's cheating, run, don't walk, away. you are too young to put up with this crap in a relationship...you should be having fun and enjoying the people you date right now, not feeling pressured or being treated like crap just because your BF has an oral fetish. stand up for yourself, girl.
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