Cheats

[FMG1976]

I have been dating my boyfriend for 3 years now but it transpires that he has been double dating me with another woman since November 2008. He told her that he was single and has seen her whilst continuing our relationships as if nothing had happened, buying me presents, valentines cards, flowers etc.

I think that the other woman should know that he is a cheat and a liar and I have hundreds of texts on my phone that are explicit and would incrimnate him entirely - I dont want her to get hurt, and neither do I want him to be able to get away with it. She should be able to know the truth and then decide. He still wants us to be friends for golf etc and to carry on texting and calling me. He hasnt said so, but clearly is not keen on me telling her although he says that she will be fine with it and will continue their relationship. I dont want to hurt him though by possibly spoiling his relationship with her as she has kids.

What do you think I should do??

[FMG1976]

This is rather an odd reply - we were not technically married but we are living together so we were as good as. We had holidays booked together for the future etc so it wasnt as if it wasnt serious and long term.
I dont want to hurt him, but I dont want him to be able to continue our relationship without him telling this other woman. She should know there is a love triangle going on too so that he cant play us off each other any more.

[SeriousSam]

He was unethical but truly he really was single as you did not say you were married to each other, nor what your relationship was.  Contrary to your own words you really do just want to hurt him.  Because  you feel you were done wrong and you are basically seeking the approval of other people so that you can feel justified in doing things that you might otherwise consider just as bad!